MRD -- best wishes for your ten days away. We will all miss your intelligent posts!!
I'm home from a family gathering in Ohio at my mom's and need a small whiney vent. Feel free to skip this post. I'm eating a strict diet of fruits, veggies, beans, and nuts (for the most part) and had e-mailed my mom ahead of time that I would appreciate if there were food options I could eat. One niece is vegan, so not a stretch from there. She did not provide one single dish I could eat the entire time, except cut watermelon. What is so hard about a salad? Sauteed zucchini and onions? She made a spinach souffle with eggs and cheese for me the first meal and when I would only eat a very small portion of it, she was offended and never tried again. Not only that, but I had to prepare the food I had brought with me early in the morning so that I wouldn't be in the way in the kitchen at meal times. I overheard her telling a friend on the phone that I was eating a "kooky" diet. And they wonder why I seldom attend these family reunions.
Count your blessings!
Gut -- I read your "vent." You are perfectly justified in how you feel. I cannot have much sodium due to a chronic medical condition, and I wouldn't like it if my mom (may she rest in piece) put potato chips, lunch meat, cheese, etc. out for me to eat. This sounds like echoes of last year for you. Hopefully you can just put it on the back burner and get on with life, as I know you will do.............
And you own no one an explanation as to why you seldom attend your family reunions.
"...each affects the other, and the other affects the next, and the world is full of stories, but the stories are all one." - Mitch Albom, one helluva writer.
When you throw a rock into a pack of dogs, you know which one you hit by the one that yelps!
I did come prepared to fend for myself, and that is exactly what I had to do. It's not that I expected her to wait on me, but she provided food for everyone else and all I asked was that there be an occasional salad or veggie dish without cheese or oils on the menu. I wasn't asking for anything that would require special purchases. If one of my children were to come home with a special diet, I would bend over backwards to meet their needs while they were here. Sorry if I come off as unappreciative.
Count your blessings!
My mom would have bent over backward to have fixed what we asked. Rant on gutmutter. Veggies is one of the easiest dishes to fix. Think I would stay home next year.
You don't have to attend every argument you are invited to.
To my mom, the spinach, cheese, and egg thing would be a healthy vegetarian dish. She's of the age where she would think you HAVE to have protein, and it can't be beans except occasionally.
I guess it might bug me a wee bit if she made special meals for my niece--nah, that's a grandbaby, I am not. Most in my family that can't or won't eat what's planned bring their own food and have it ready to use. I hate to say it, but I wouldn't even request my mother to prepare special things for me unless she asked what I wanted. She's getting old and I really wish she would let me do more in the kitchen when I go there.
But that's me, and my family--I couldn't imagine my mm feeding me 'wrong' food just to be contrary. But if she did, and I was sure that it was intentional,I'd be peeved too.
I have found the Truth and it doesn't make sense.
Since my grandmother passed away a few years ago, Thanksgiving and Christmas at my aunt's house was always take out food like subway sandwiches, box meals, etc. I finally cooked an entire meal, loaded it in the car and heated it up when we went there last year. Mr buglover really likes his meat and potatoes and the rest of the family just picks at food, never eats much. I have to laugh and say, we are the fat side of the family, we need real food!
Yup, with donuts!!