MRD, I think people say things like "You're so strong." because they don't want to think about the fact that maybe you aren't doing so well. It makes them feel better. Maybe it's the idea that if they say you're strong, you WILL be
You're dealing with a lot of change all at once. You're allowed to take some time to deal with it and adjust and figure out what your life is going to be. It sounds like you have some good friends there and you know you have lots of shoulders here to lean on and we don't mind if you're not feeling so strong
I'm sure one of the hardest parts is not having your babies with you. Do you know when you'll be able to bring them down?