Speaking of weddings...I'm going to one today up in the OC...yes...ORANGE COUNTY! I don't think I'll be seeing any of the "housewives" there because the wedding I am attending would probably be below their standards. One of our attorneys is getting married (on the beach at 5:30) and then having the reception at a hotel that is on the SAME beach on their outdoor patio area facing the ocean. That'll be so pretty and romantic and then we get to watch the sunset over the ocean. She (the bride) said that we shouldn't dress up too much because her dad and grandfather are wearing Hawaiian shirts. And the bride and groom are not even accepting wedding gifts (since they are in their 30's and combining two households and have everything) but instead told everyone if they want they can make a small donation to a local kitty animal shelter in their area. That's so nice of them...not many couples think of anyone other than themselves.Originally Posted by stcroix;4018056;
However...my daughter is getting married next year and she is "thinking" of a 40's wedding theme...oh my!!
My wedding was quite a long time ago...more than 30 years ago...and I am now divorced...but I remember getting my wedding dress at JC Penneys and only paying around 150.00 for it...now I see on these wedding shows people pay 5k or more...wow!!! People do seem to go overboard nowadays and it does seem that they make more of an effort in making the wedding perfect than then they do at working on the marriage after the wedding is over. And call me old school...but I think if a couple has been living together prior to marriage...then they should just have a simple ceremony to make it legal. I know I'll get alot of flack on that one...but to me....if you've been living together, then you've already been playing house/husband/wife (sometimes even having kids), so why the big deal over a wedding? You by-passed that step when you moved in together and played "marriage" before the wedding. I don't understand making a big deal and having an extravagant wedding with all the bells and whistles when you're getting married AFTER living together...it just doesn't make sense. To me...a wedding signifies a new life together, creating a new household with your loved one and sharing in new things that you haven't shared in before, there's a real sense of excitement that comes with that. When you live together, you've already done all that...so what's there to look forward to? I guess the party is exciting and wearing a wedding dress, but other than the party...most couples who live together have even already gone on vacation together, so a honeymoon is just like another vacation. My daughter and her boyfriend went on vacation in June to Europe and got engaged in Paris...so what will make a honeymoon any different than their trip to Europe other than they will be wearing wedding rings? I've had this discussion w/my daughter (who is living with her fiance for a year and a half now) and she says that marrying someone is a bigger commitment than even having kids with them! Something is backwards here! I just don't get it....when you have kids with someone you are stuck with that person in your life forever but if you marry someone and you end up divorced and have not had kids, you never have to see them again. And it would seem that alot of people must feel that way today about marriage being a bigger commitment than kids or else they would marry the person they're having kids with and living with instead of just living together, having kids and not marrying. Sometimes I feel like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and am living in "backwards world" where everything is upside down and backwards.