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    I've been holding off on commenting on this one, Buglover.... but I gotta say that I wouldn't go. Many reasons, but I'll just make it simple as I know you have lots of pros and cons going on in that head of yours

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    Re: FORT Koffee Klatch

    Well we discussed it and I'm not going to go. He is my partner, my best friend and I am married to him. If they in any way get upset, well so be it. I love them like family but my husband is my family and I do not wish to upset him over something that isn't really about either of us. Happy Turkey Day to all of my FORT Friends!! I love you guys!
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    I'm a little late to the party, but I support your decision not to go, buglover. Even though my hubby pisses me off sometimes and I don't understand him sometimes, HE is the one with whom I have a covenant/contract, and as much as I love my friend, my greatest commitment is to my husband. If, in any given situation where either my husband is hurt or someone else is hurt, I'd have to choose to NOT hurt my husband.
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    If the medical condition is not a factor then I'd be staying home too. That is just plain rude on the part of the mother.
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    Re: FORT Koffee Klatch

    Quote Originally Posted by Duxxy;3242141;
    If the medical condition is not a factor then I'd be staying home too. That is just plain rude on the part of the mother.
    Definitely. This sounds like some sort of power play on the part of the mom or something. I'd be nice and polite about it (no reason to cause hard feelings), but I'd let them know that you and your husband come as a pair. If the bride has no issue, the mom shouldn't either.
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    Re: FORT Koffee Klatch

    Quote Originally Posted by myrosiedog;3241790;
    First question my husband asks if we get invited to a wedding is: "will they have an open bar?". Those I have no problem getting him to attend.
    That's always my first question too. Worst wedding experience ever was the one I was actually in and all they had was that awful pink wine from a box. It totally ended in me being sickly drunk and dreaming the groomsman I was paired with blasting me with a shotgun. Open bars (with free-flowing vodka preferably) are a total must for me now.

    Buglover, I'm glad you reached a decision. Since you talked to the bride, I'm sure she'll understand.

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    Wow, Buglover. What an awful predicament! I think the Mom just put you and your husband between a rock and a hard place. If you don't attend yourself, you will most surely feel badly that you missed the event. However, if you do go yourself, you are putting your husband 2nd to her friendship. I don't think that the girlfriend of the father should be invited if it's intended to be small. You and your husband should definitely be invited before she is.

    I honestly have no idea what I would do! There will probably be photos or a video taken at the ceremony. You are certainly free to call your friend and her new husband and wish them well or have them over to your place for dinner to celebrate together at a later date (without your friend, the Mom if you choose). Still, it's not the same as actually being there.

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    Re: FORT Koffee Klatch

    Well Bug, that puts a different light on it. However, I don't think I would tell either one of them that it's a package deal, either hubby is invited or you don't go. That's extortion, IMO. They have been extremely rude, but you don't have to be rude back even though I would feel totally justified in doing so on your part. As my grandmother would say: two wrongs don't make a right.

    I'd just tell them that you'd love to be there, but with it being such short notice, you had already made plans with hubby. if they flat out ask, then you can tell them why. But I really wouldn't make a big deal out of it. It's the bride's day, don't make her feel bad because of her nitwit mother.
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    Yes, that definitely puts a different light on things bug. Send a nice present, but stay home. I can't imagine me being invited to a wedding and not my husband, and for no good reason.

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    Re: FORT Koffee Klatch

    Quote Originally Posted by myrosiedog;3242229;
    Well Bug, that puts a different light on it. However, I don't think I would tell either one of them that it's a package deal, either hubby is invited or you don't go. That's extortion, IMO. They have been extremely rude, but you don't have to be rude back even though I would feel totally justified in doing so on your part. As my grandmother would say: two wrongs don't make a right.

    I'd just tell them that you'd love to be there, but with it being such short notice, you had already made plans with hubby. if they flat out ask, then you can tell them why. But I really wouldn't make a big deal out of it. It's the bride's day, don't make her feel bad because of her nitwit mother.
    I agree. That does shed a whole new light into the situation. I wouldn't go either, but don't give a reason unless they flat out ask.

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