I don't think any woman really wants a man to *take care of them*. I don't want that, anyway. I want my husband to be supportive of me and my decisions and to be a willing and engaged parent to our kids.
I've been a SAHM and I've been (and currently am) employed fulltime outside the home. Both are equally demanding but in different ways. If I am being completely honest with myself, I don't think I am cut out to be a fulltime SAHM. (Hey, one more thing to feel guilty about.) In a perfect world, I'd like to be able to quit my job, finish my degree, then have the ability to organize my work hours to be more available for my kids' school and extracurricular activities.
But, it's not a perfect world, so like everyone else, I play the hand I've been dealt. My point to you being, giz, is that you're now in a situation where being a fulltime SAHM may not be feasible any longer. Your world has been turned upside down - instead of trying to turn everything right-side-up again, I think it would be more productive (and emotionally healthy) to simply rearrange things and make it as if you MEANT to turn everything upside down. (God, I sound like I'm drunk...I'm not, I swear. ) It sounds like you are interested in the idea of a new challenge, which is awesome. Don't bemoan the loss of your former life - the kiddies will adjust. They may whine a bit at first, but at the end of the day they will be proud of their mom for her ability to cope, and thrive.