I got a book out of the library today called The Friend Who Got Away. It's really good so far (writing's great). I was wondering what experience everyone else has with "the one who got away".
My story: When I was 6 I met my best friend. We were best friends all throughout our childhoods, went backpacking in Europe together, partied together, I was the first one she called after she broke up with her boyfriend, etc. Ten years ago I had my first kid. I was the first of our group to have a kid. I was a little obsessed with the baby, AND my husband was being a total prat so I was a little stressed. My best friend of over 20 years dealt with this by A)not returning my calls B)not inviting me to her parties and C)somehow convincing our mutual friends to freeze me out too (I know, I know, they didn't need much convincing). (One mutual friend confirmed that former best friend started it all, and agreed they should have just told me to shut up about the baby, versus pretending I didn't exist). All this couldn't have come at a worse time, as I was pretty frazzled by my husband's huge two year long hissy-fit over being displaced by baby. I've made lots of new friends (with kids),but I feel like I can't really trust girlfriends in the same way. The odd conclusion to the tale is that 5 years later, when my baby-phobic friend suddenly decided she wanted a baby BAD, she started calling me up. Grrr. My husband can't understand why I see her (she's moved across the country, but I'll see her when she visits). I don't know, I don't want to seem petty mostly. Trying to be the big one. Anyone else lost a friend? I'm pretty much over it except that in a sense I kind of miss her, as we were very sympatico.