48Likesallright!!!Originally Posted by J.D.;3498824;
It's about time I tried on my vegas apparel anyway.That was a good one.
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OK, time for my opinion, this has gone too far. Tell him to get the F off your property unless you specifiacally ask him to come over, and not to even think about hanging around on the property line looking sad--he CANNOT EVER come over if Mr MRD isn't home! Tell him he CAN"T EVER have another cigarette from you, and that if he shows up banging on the door or aggravating you while you are on the porch, you will call the cops. Then follow through.You are just too nice! Even though he has never done anything to you, drunks are dangerous, especially the kind prone to blacking out, and he doesn't need to ever be there while you are alone. I used to have a drunk for a next door neighbor, when I was (a lot) younger, and he used to show up wanting a dollar, a cigarette, to dig fishing worms, whatever, all the time. Then one day he just happened to show up and tried pushing me when I said no smokes--at the time I was very strong from throwing hay bales and horse feed, and was able to knock him on his ass and out the door. From that day on, I called 911 every time I saw him approaching--it took several times but finally worked.
Even if this guy is somehow guaranteed 100% safe, he has no right whatever to just show up the way he does; you CAN TOO enjoy your own place, even if it means a bit of evil-ness on your part till he gets the hint. Come on, learn to enjoy being an ASS when you need to be!
Queenb is absolutely right. My father was an alcoholic and I have a brother who is slowly killing himself with booze. The one thing I've learned is that you can't be nice or polite or politically correct with a drunk. It just doesn't work. You have to come right out and say what's on your mind and not worry about hurting his feelings. Alcoholics are great at using people who are willing to enable them to continue their behavior. You have to stop being that person. If you don't want him around, say so in plain English, and then be consistent about it. He will eventually get the hint and maybe you can even have a somewhat friendly relationship without having to be joined at the hip. Good luck.
Queenb, that is almost exactly what I did do, except I used much worse language. It had some effect for about 2 weeks. And I can take this guy easily if he were to become aggressive. I'm not worried about that. I want to be left alone and I did mention the cops and trespassing and get the F out of my yard, etc. You'd have been damn proud if you could have heard me.
Just didn't work well. But He has not been over in 5 days, so maybe this is the start of him leaving me alone.
Yeah, come on up and take care of him for me. I'd love for you too.
Good girl--it does take a few times. But it will eventually get through his drunk skull that you are not EVER going to be nice, and that you WILL act crazy if you see him heading your way! Kind of like training a dog, only stupider; don't EVER let him have a good outcome, not even one smoke, when he sees you.
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Listen to her MRD.