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    Re: Advice on child fleeing the nest

    Canuck, I just wanted to agree with everyone else. (I'm a little late) You obviously know what is best for your family. And if it isn't a good fit for you son, he can always come home. So phooey to those silly people and their negative opinions.

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    Re: Advice on child fleeing the nest

    Quote Originally Posted by canuckinchile;3688680;
    I am feeling sad today since my oldest two have left for university (I can put together anything IKEA blindfolded now) and we are taking my youngest to a boarding school in another province tomorrow Both of his sisters went to this school (we were overseas and it was a necessity...ie we were in the boonies and there were no appropriate schools) and we always said we would give him the same opportunity when the time came, if he wanted. He is very excited and I hope he has the same success as his sisters, but I am still having a lot of trouble as we pack up his room. Also, I get so many negative comments from people that have no idea what they are talking about; I am tired of being made to feel like I am "shipping him off". Nothing could be further from the truth. He is an excellent student, a good kid, but my husband and I feel that we don't want to deny him the same opportunities just because we want him with us. We're trying to be fair. We'll see how it goes. He could always come home after a year, but truthfully, my kids have always been very independent so I don't think this will happen. My mom, brother and other relatives are close by so I'll be able to visit a fair bit. Sorry for the rant, but I am feeling kind of blue (and I'm sure he is sick of me hugging him )

    My tip of the day: if you are getting a cell phone for your kid at this time of year (school opening) make sure you shop around and bargain. I was amazed at the deals they will pull out of their pocket at the last minute if they think you are about to switch companies, ie. unlimited text, free top 10 numbers across the country, etc.

    Well consider the source and just let it go. They DON'T know what they are talking about. They don't know what's best for you and your immediate family and you do.
    I have a SIL in that does this to me a lot and I finally told her: "I'm her mother and I am doing what's best for US, not you, so butt out".

    Good luck and congrats on your new Ikea builder status. May everyone have a great school year.
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    Re: Advice on child fleeing the nest

    Thanks all. We're all packed up and on the road tomorrow. And yeah, Ikea could hire me . I second the good wishes for a great school year for all!

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    Quote Originally Posted by canuckinchile;3688883;
    Thanks Lil and inthegarden. I'm feeling better now. It is a great opportunity for him and I mostly don't really care what people say, but sometimes it does get to me. He has been to the school many times to visit his sisters and even though I know he will have lost all his socks 3 days after getting there, I think it will be good for him. It'll kill me...but good for him

    Thanks for your kind words. It cheered me up a lot
    My nephew came home from college (freshman year) at Christmas, with sheets so dirty my sister threw them away. He just never thought about changing them.

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    Re: Advice on child fleeing the nest

    Quote Originally Posted by inthegarden;3689667;
    My nephew came home from college (freshman year) at Christmas, with sheets so dirty my sister threw them away. He just never thought about changing them.
    Thanks for the laugh.
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    I have to admit, I'm starting to have empty nest syndrome. I get up, go to the Y, go to work, walk the dog, read my Kindle, go to bed. Repeat, repeat, repeat. *sigh* Thank God for my Kindle.
    Count your blessings!

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    Gut. I know how you feel. I am shopping for 2 now ( and often only me since my husband travels a lot for business) and I'm having problems not overbuying. Plus, the dogs are getting tired of my one man show I'm flying out to see my son next week and visit with my mom. I can hardly wait.

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    This is probably small comfort, but having birds able to fly off and make their own way in the world is surely a sign of a job well done as a parent.
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    Thanks. I know that, but it doesn't make the house less quiet. Canuck - I hear you about over-buying food! I don't drink milk (prefer soy) but I keep buying a quart "just in case". I'm going to have to stop making a whole crock pot of food on the weekends because I just don't get through it and am sick of it by Weds. Ditto on baking a pie or anything like that.
    My daughter just called as I was writing this and has the opportunity to do a semester in Italy next fall. Now we just have to find the money for it.
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    Re: Advice on child fleeing the nest

    Quote Originally Posted by canuckinchile;3734521;
    Gut. I know how you feel. I am shopping for 2 now ( and often only me since my husband travels a lot for business) and I'm having problems not overbuying. Plus, the dogs are getting tired of my one man show I'm flying out to see my son next week and visit with my mom. I can hardly wait.
    Have a great visit!

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