Short version: because he's bossier. Also if he's determined to go, it may be the only way we could stay in our house/neighbourhood.
It's so great having you guys here for me. There are reasons I'd rather not discuss it with people here - embarassment being right up there. Also my bestest friend (since we were three) has two brothers. The brothers are best mates with my brother. My best friend has loose lips. So it would spread like wildfire.