A big rolling thank you to all of you ....relationship issues are never easy so I appreciate the additional insight, particularly in a situation I have never found myself involved with before.
After I posted yesterday, I decided to let it all go and just totally stop thinking about it....we have really had a great relationship so far and I'm going to place stock in that as opposed to letting a third party get in the way of that. This was never about wanting to change him, his friends, etc....it was also never about jealousy....after being through hell and back in my past relationship, feeling respect is a huge deal for me and it's cut and dry...if I don't feel it, I'm walking away...if I was insecure, I would stay and nag and tolerate being co-dependent and deplete my own self esteem and drive myself crazy. But that was then, this is now and I have a new life now.
I did tell my BF last night that while this type of closely knit group is foreign to me in the way they all seem to trade around and they all know each other's business, I told him that it was important to me as a newcomer to fit into his life (acceptance is also a big deal for us both), I'm trying, I know he cares, etc. And really, for the most part, I feel very welcomed into the group...these two in particular however by their actions, caused me to pause for a moment.
Anyway, it's over and we settled the issue as any normal sane person would do...margaritas and a water fight.
CallieCutie-I just wanted to say....this is not your fault and I'm so sorry that you experienced that situation...however, I am glad to hear that as JoeGuy said, there wasn't more time and intimacy invested than what you have stated. I know that might not make it feel any better, but be thankful you found out sooner than later.