*tsk tsk* Jealous much? Just kidding....Originally Posted by Broadway
I have to disagree with ya just a little chickadee. It is an important "emotional" need for some people to be able to be physically attracted (or expect a certain physical trait) to/from their partner. I say emotional because emotional needs sustain love if they are present.
I'm 5'9" and sorry, but it makes me very uncomfortable to date someone shorter than I am. Let's be brutally honest too....someone has to be at least "somewhat" on par with your ideal otherwise you wouldn't even turn your head....for instance, you see a troll with a big hairy wart, hunch back and rotten crooked teeth and he's 2' shorter than you....would you only care about their personality before you decided to date them? Does that make you shallow? No, I don't think it should.
I realize that some people can and will look beyond the physical, and that's great, but it's also important to realize that for others, to expect/want someone they are physically attracted to (on the inside and out) is also perfectly fine. People don't have to have the same mind set....and there is no wrong or right in this scenario-it's what is important to an individual that they seek in a relationship.
Sorry for the long winded-ness....this subject just hits home because I had a dear friend (who happened to look like a Ken doll) that struggled with this for a long time that usually only liked Barbie's and everyone chastized him for being shallow and narrow minded...so he felt obligated to try and date someone that didn't fit his ideal and he searched and searched, dated several women that weren't his ideal, etc.. He found himself trying not to focus on their physical attributes on a conscious level (red flag don't you think-forcing something?), but it was very hard for him to ignore and sooner or later, the relationship would end because he just couldn't overcome it. Before you pass judgment, my friend is one the sweetest, most sincere and romantic guys you could ever meet....he just has his type that makes him happy. It doesn't change who he is inside.