Yeah, I know stargazer, there's a certain amount of cake-eating going on. Thing is, there's not much for them to do there, though they do go over there on Saturdays. Weeknights he's here twice because I'm tutoring, and get back right before bedtime. They like having him still read them stories. The other nights he drops by on his way to soccer. I think its more comfortable for them to have him here, even if its a bit wierd for me.
Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I've been busy processing the whole thing, plus doing my part-time work, plus being a newly single parent, plus I started two on-line courses, and am teaching a course next week. I've just been feeling slightly overwhelmed by it all! Everyone I know says I'm doing well, and while I have moments where I'm cranky (at what he's done) or tearful, for the most part I just think "well, what are you going to do?". I'm not going to let the situation beat me down, or define everything about me. The lady I work for got divorced four years ago and she is still hopping mad about it. Great, great lady, really like her, but I won't let it take up that much of my mental time, or peace of mind. I feel a Gloria Gaynor song coming on!