fertility specialists usually require people to try for a year, but it's a shorter period of time if you're, um, a little older.
BTW, I found out today a friend of mine is expecting. Her file was stamped AMA, which stands for Advanced Matnernal Age. She's 37. :eek
Yeah, and to add to what Hep said :laugh that's good advice to lie. I was told to take my temperature daily for 6 mo's (to predict ovulation), and at the age of 35, it was extremely poor advice, as my clock was winding down quickly. We lost valuable time we could never make up for. This was also in the early 80's, and infertility was just becoming the hot topic. I'm old as dirt. :teeth
Thank you so much applesauce, buckeyegal, jewelsy, combatcutie, rt1ky, hepcat, roseskid, and angelic!!!! I am psyched beyond words and I am really loving this thread. I am just so darn cautious. I have my ultrasound next Thursday. :)
hepcat, at first I was not loving the pregnancy feeling. I felt like my body was hijacked. I felt all the usual symptoms with some cramping thrown in. I still have cramping. I get it 1-3 times a day...mild to medium and it lasts like 1-5 minutes but subsides when I lay down. My Doc says it is normal and I have no bleeding. I never read before that some women cramp. At first, I was very worried but then I got talking to other women and they said they cramped too. Note to self: no more research on the internet, it freaks me out. :nod Did anyone experience cramping in early pregnancy or is anyone experiencing that now besides me?
I know I am not too far along yet but I pray I dont get morning sickness because I gag like crazy naturally.
Also, please forgive me for not recalling, but a fellow forter wrote does it take anything special. Let me tell you this...I tried for almost 3 years. I am 34 and everyone around me was freaking me out about ticking biological clocks and all of that (although so many women I work with got pregnant in their mid-late thirties...2, i know of, were pregnant in their early forties and delivered healthy cutiepies!) Doc said I had cystic ovaries and that I may need the help of fertility drugs etc. Around November of 2004, I said to myself. Forget it. I am done trying. I will try fertility drugs in the summer. We just had fun when we wanted to and didnt think about fertility or ovaluating at all. It took only 4 months after that. How ironic right?
I was shuddering in horror about the old woman trying to stick her finger in the babies mouth. That is just so wrong. :omg After reading all of your replies, I never realised how weird some people act around expectant mothers and babies.
Heh, I see I am not the only one to stumble in here out of curiosity and mutter a sigh of "lord I hope not!".....but congrats to all that are with child. :)
:rofl Besides the sickness, weight gain, totally unattractive expandable pants and a long hot summer with both to endure...I liked it. I did like having larger breasts. :) Now, after with the larger breasts? :cow That's another story...
Originally Posted by hepcat
:lol I already feel like a Moo. Could I feel any more bloated? I know, I know....just wait until I am in my second of third trimester!
I had mild morning sickness, but it was well worth the result. I loved being preggers and have forgotten most of the negatives of it. Sex! Yeah!
Originally Posted by Duxxy
I read many books about pregnancy and children. My absolute favorite was a book called Dr. Denmark Said It. It was written by a woman named Madia Bowman who has 11 children and Dr. Denmark was the pediatrician for all of them. Dr. Denmark was a pioneer in vaccine development. She has some of the best suggestion and encourages parents to rely on their intuition. At times you might seem lost in the care of your children, but you know them better than anyone else and should trust yourself.
Once my son was very sick. He was unnable to keep anything down and quickly went downhill. His pediatrician was not concerned even when he became listless and unresponsive. I followed Dr. Denmark's advice and administered an enima she listed in the book. Within 20 minutes he perked up and within an hour he was keeping down small sips of water. After 2 hours he was eating, drinking and playing normally. Without this book and the good advice in it the result surely would have been much worse.
Thanks everyone for some of the advice you gave me. Hubby and I have only been trying for about 3 months. I will be 30 the end of May. Every month for the past 3 months I am so disappointed to find the test negative or my cycle arrive. This month we tried the ovulation kit. If it doesn't work this time, I'm not going to stress or be disappointed. I'll just keep "having fun" and it will happen when it happens.
I cramped and had spotty bleeding during parts of my pregnancy, Blondie. My OBgyn actually told me it was because I had a small frame, a big baby, and my uterus was stretching so quickly it was causing small tears as I ballooned up. It wasn't anything to worry about. However, as I'm sure a lot of women can tell you, bleeding and cramping is sometimes very serious. Always bring it up and keep bringing it up to your doctor. My rule of thumb was that you could never ask too many questions of your OB-Gyn. And by god, with the money they make, I think they should answer them all. :laugh
I remember being in a childbirth class that I thought was hysterical. All the lights were out and they had us laying in the floor, our partners rubbing our forearms (forearms??), classical music playing, and our instructor saying stuff like, "just imagine the pain as an ocean wave, washing over you. Once it passes back out to sea, you'll never see that particular wave again." and "your cervix will be a flower, blossoming forth with new life" :eek :laugh I am NOT making those up, either. All the other couples looked SO SERIOUS. There were nodding and smiling serenely. Meanwhile, me and my partner are in the back snorting and trying desperately to stifle our giggles. :rofl So, even though the little scientist in me thought the whole process was fascinating and a little magical, I still wasn't waxing poetic about it.
My body didn't do very well with being pregnant. I was sick and miserable for a lot of it. I actually had issues that stemmed from it that still bother me now, three years later. I had a long, difficult labor and my daughter was born a month premature (but thankfully as big as a full-term baby :) ). I also don't think that motherhood and those loving maternal feelings came to me as naturally as they seem to come to some. I loved her, but it took a few days before the real, profound love I have now took hold.
No one's pregnancy is the same. Some are good, some are bad. But I think pretty much every mother here would have to agree on one thing. Once its over and you have a child, they become worth any price you paid and you suddenly have been given the most important job in the world. Sappy and cheesy? Yes, probably. But also very true. :biglove
:rofl Oh man, we should have been in childbirth class together. It was the same for us. I lived in Santa Barbara then, and I thought it was CA granola-speak. Everyone else seemed so into it. We always managed to find a spot in a corner so we could giggle quietly.
Originally Posted by Stargazer
And what about those films they show you in class? There was a woman who did her labor at home in a rocking chair, while the husband rubbed her arm (again with the arm thing) and quietly spoke words of encouragement. When she finally does go to the hospital, she's completely dilated. They put her up on the table, where she stands, gives a little grunt, and pop goes the baby. No muss, no fuss. Now how many of us had a labor and delivery like that? :laugh
One more childbirth class moment: the instructor asked everyone to say what they hoped to do differently from their parents. We went first, and said something about balancing work and play. (Boring, but what can I say? She put us on the spot.) As she went around the room, it turned into a game of one-up. One woman said she hoped she doesn't call her husband names in front of the baby, and he chimed in that he doesn't want to find himself calling his wife a whore anymore now that the baby is on he way. One guy said he hoped he won't throw the kid across the room because as a cop, he has very stressful days. So...was he saying he throws his wife across the room to relieve stress?
These were all folks who were gushing about the power of life growing in their bellies earlier in the class. I'll take my hubby, less inclined to share his feelings publicly, but who doesn't call me a whore on a regular basis (and doesn't tell a class full of strangers about it).
Edited for HUGE mistake. :blush :blush :blush
Originally Posted by Jewelsy
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