The War of the Roses (or the divorce chronicles)

[Tigrazhia]

We're the Scandinavian super-twins!

LOL, kinda starting to look like it is'nt it lol

Yeah, I felt guilty too. The divorce was just after my brother graduated high school and went out on his own for the first time. I'm older, so I was in college. I felt like now we were out there door they could do what they really wanted. But what does that make us? I would not recommend staying together "for the kids" because it's a lot better growing up with parrents that are true to themselves and honest with their feelings, that realizing you grew up with a lie.

Well said, that's exactly how I feel too ... This is actually a great thread, I find it interesting to hear from someone else whose parents split after growing up, none of my friends have had this experience so this is a good thread for sure

[blue jean baby]

Nothing really funny or bad happened during my divorce, it actually went allot better then the marriage did. i actually did all the work, filing and everything myself. It might have been the only time in the last three yrs that we were married that we actually agreed on everything. i am only replying to this because i don't talk to allot of people about my marriage, and one reason i think is because i am ashamed that i lived that way for so long. My ex was very very mentally abusive and when i think i lived like that (like i was nothing ) for 13 yrs i feel ashamed. When i read some of these and see what others have been through it makes me remember that i am not the only one that lived like that. At least we all got out. It is really a shame how some men treat woman, (and i guess vise versa sometimes). i have a great guy now, i live in sin according to my father, but i am just not in any hurry to get married again.

bjb

[scarlett530]

Nothing really funny or bad happened during my divorce, it actually went allot better then the marriage did. i actually did all the work, filing and everything myself. It might have been the only time in the last three yrs that we were married that we actually agreed on everything. i am only replying to this because i don't talk to allot of people about my marriage, and one reason i think is because i am ashamed that i lived that way for so long. My ex was very very mentally abusive and when i think i lived like that (like i was nothing ) for 13 yrs i feel ashamed. When i read some of these and see what others have been through it makes me remember that i am not the only one that lived like that. At least we all got out. It is really a shame how some men treat woman, (and i guess vise versa sometimes). i have a great guy now, i live in sin according to my father, but i am just not in any hurry to get married again.

bjb

No, you aren't alone. None of us are. It's not anything to be ashamed of. You should be proud of the fact that you were strong enough to get out of it. I am thankful that I grow stronger every day that my abusive marriage gets farther in the past.

[Unklescott]

I don't have any stories to tell or specifics about my divorce to divulge. All I want to say is that without a doubt it was the ugliest, nastiest, part of life that I have ever had to experience. My heart goes out to anyone going through this.

[famita]

My problem was my lawyer gave my ex everything but the kitchen sink! Then when he got sick, I allowed him to stay with my boys and me while he recouperated, so my boys would be able to see him. He had almost died and had to have part of his foot amputated. I ended up kicking him out because I would wake up in the middle of the night and he would be doing his business right over me. I was so grossed out and that's probably why I can't date.

[dagwood]

My problem was my lawyer gave my ex everything but the kitchen sink! Then when he got sick, I allowed him to stay with my boys and me while he recouperated, so my boys would be able to see him. He had almost died and had to have part of his foot amputated. I ended up kicking him out because I would wake up in the middle of the night and he would be doing his business right over me. I was so grossed out and that's probably why I can't date.

You must have been married to my friends ex. She used to wake up to that, too.

[Unklescott]

^That is sick.

[joeguy]

that is sick, even if he didn't have a leg to stand on. You should have given him the boot, the one he didn't have a use for....rat bastard

[EvaLaruefan]

*hugs* to all of you who have through messy divorces. Just rememer we're always here to listen if you ever need to talk.

[gaby]

Recently a very close friend has went through a divorce... that I am still trying to understand all the craziness. She and her husband have been friends of mine before I was ever married. So we have always socialize... So all this caught me way off guard. (She is my age.. 37. And was married for 10 years. They have a 6 year child.)

My friend "Sue" came to me in mid-August 2004 and said, " I got a problem. " she goes on to tell me that her and the husband quitely got divorce last Dec. 2003. Tho they were at all the parties last year for the holidays together all lovey dovey, they were really divorce.

The reason for the divorce was his "self owned business" was going to have to file backruptcy in the new year (2004) and he wanted her and their daughter to be protected. That they would only be divorce on paper. She would have the house put in her name only.. along with her car. And her personal worth would not be effected in the ugly business bankruptcy. (Both have had good careers.)

He wanted to make sure she did not lose what she had worked for. (She really owned the house before they married.. and had put his name on the deed after the marriage.) That he would have to get an apartment in town to establish they were seperated. But once the divorce was final he would move back into their house.

He did not want her to tell anyone... friends or parents about this. Just keep it quite. Which she did. His personal lawyer took care of the divorce. And she got nothing from the whole thing... except she got to keep the house she paid for.. the car she paid for... and 250.00 a month in child support. Oh and he made his weekly husband duties for a couple months.

Well it was all a lie.

He had a pregnant 22 yr old girlfriend living in the apartment he alledgly rented. His business was not going into bankruptcy. And the wife had just signed away all claims to his personal worth. They had never had a joint bank account. He always gave her 1000.00 a week for the house bills and she never gave it another thought.

Things got ugly in August 2004... when Sue figured out she had been lied to by her husband and his attorney. And to add insult to the whole matter the husband had not paid her one of the 250.00 a month child support payment.

She hired a private detective to find out what happen and was devasted by all of it.

She recently had the ex-husband arrested over not paying child support. All I could think about is how could she not gotten her own lawyer for the divorce and confirm the whole story of bankruptcy. This is not a dumb girl... far from it. And this whole messy thing is far from over. Yet her husband is still insisting that the company is failing... that he is broke. Yet "Mr. I am so Broke" purchase a new house.