Hi All —
I need a little parental perspective on an issue regarding drugs, namely pot. Let me start by first coming clean to you all: I’m 24 and still live with my folks. So, I share a house with my parents and my 18 year old brother, who just started college this fall. My Mom and Dad have been busting their tails owning and running a restaurant for the past 2 years, not having the time to really make their house a home or really pay attention/spend time with my brother.
My brother is not a joc, not very book-smart, and hangs out with his guitar-playing, skateboard-riding, song-writing, geek friends—many of whom are either taking a year or so off from college. So he has a friend over last night who fits my description above to watch the Red Sox game (they rule, BTW). They went out to get some grub and came back home to my Dad answering the door. My Dad thinks he was stoned, because both boys had that glassy look in their eyes. A few minutes later, mom later confronted him about it and he wasn’t as defensive as he should have been for someone who’s been accused of doing something he “wasn’t.” Plus the amount of cologne he had on was suffocating.
Before I start scaring members with my incessant ramblings, the bottom line is that my Dad wants to have a family pow wow about drugs and have my brother come clean. I assured them that he doesn’t strike me as the type to go into anything hardcore, but their imaginations are already going buck-wild. My mom is feeling guilty for not being around—but the restaurant was mainly income for his college tuition. There are a lot of other marginal factors that make this a dysfunctional situation, but this post would go on for the next 5 pages. I don’t want to be involved in this “intervention” because to be honest, I’ve dabbled in weed back in college. I don’t do it now, because I have a job and am trying my darndest to be a responsible adult (ok, who’s mom and dad bought her a car and allows her to live with them rent free—but I digress). I just don’t want to be involved because I fear that I’ll look like a hypocrite.
My heart really goes out to my mom and dad because they are doing their best and making the most out of this economy and just trying to survive. My question to you all is if you could give me some perspective on this. I would really appreciate it. My life is an open-book so feel free to ask me whatever you want!
Thanks in advance, guys!!!