MalibuPam, I also had a lot of trouble with it (I got contacts at age 15, so... 13 years ). I just could not bring myself to actually touch my eyeball. After many tries, the optometrist made me go home to let my eyes rest. And to trim my long, lovingly cultivated fingernails. Anyway, after all that, I eventually got them in. And it did take a while of wearing them for me to adjust to the feeling. But I did, and now it's easy. Just keep practicing, you'll get the hang of it.
Oh, it might also depend on what kind of contact you have. I have soft ones -- my sister had semi-rigid gas-permeable ones, or something weird like that, and they *always* gave her fits. Get the soft ones.