VeroicaBelle, my deepest condolences on your tragic loss. I am so sad for you. I do want to say that you were told right. Unless you were drinking hard liquor, smoking, doing drugs and hitting your stomach every night, you did not cause this miscarriage. It is natural to feel guilty about losing your baby--after all, you were carrying this child around and taking care of him or her. But the human body is incredibly resilient. Plenty of women under less than ideal circumstances go on to have full-term pregnancies. There are others (myself included) who all but stopped working and stayed at home without doing anything strenuous who still go on to miscarry. I know this will not seem like much of a comfort now, but miscarriages are nature's way of saying that the baby was too weak to survive. As cruel as that sounds, it's so much less cruel for this to happen now rather than after the birth where the child would suffer more before passing away. I never realized that so many women miscarried, but I do know that most women go on to have successful pregnancies in the upcoming cycles. So please don't despair. And please give yourself enough time to grieve this loss. People who haven't been through it don't understand the toll it takes. And people also don't realize that you can't just snap your feelings on and off. It will get better with time. I promise you. You will never forget this baby, but you will get through it and you will be happy again. Maybe just not now.Originally Posted by VeronicaBelle27;3266829;
Again, I am so very sorry for your loss.