I love that about true friends, mrd. So true!
famita, about the grieving...You know, until someone experiences a tragic loss, they have no idea what you're going through. No idea. I was the same way. I always felt bad about it when someone died, but I never knew how gutwrenching it truly was until it happened to me. When I lost my baby (and sorry for bringing this up again), one friend never called, never sent a card, never offered me a shoulder to cry on. I ran into her about 8 months after the baby died and she said, "I hope you realize I was there for you." ??? How would I have known that? I had called her to tell her about the loss and she NEVER called me back. A true friend would've made the effort to make sure I was OK not because that's her responsibility, but because that's what friends do. After my father passed away, another friend disappeared like the wind. It became all about her. She called me a couple days after he passed away--and she knew about his passing because I had called to tell her--and asked me what was new. !!! I told her I was making arrangements for my father's funeral. She left a few messages for me a few weeks later apologizing for being an insensitive a-hole and I told her it was alright, but in my heart, I had already written her off. Again, not because of this one incident, but because it was the culmination of a lot of things.
Some people are just takers. I think each of us deserves/needs to be a taker at some point in our lives. But it has to be balanced out by giving. That's what true friends do.
ETA:I'm only using you to get to your cooking...Originally Posted by myrosiedog;3264924;