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    paridy: I'm so very sorry to hear of the cancer your beloved father is fighting right now. Sending prayers and healing thoughts to you and your Dad for strength.

    onei0091 - I am also very sorry to hear of your recent loss. I cannot imagine the grief and pain you are sufferring.

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    I think I've told you all about my friend with the 18 year old daughter that has schizophrenia and was hospitalized? Well today, she asked me if I could come over and stay with her because she had an appointment and couldn't take her with her and can't leave her home alone. Well babysitting a toddler would be easier. They have had to put a chime on the front door to alert them if she goes out. She's sneaky too. She slipped out on me twice and if it wasn't for the chime, I'd have never known it. And trying to get her to come back inside was not easy either. Trying to get her to listen when she kept saying she wanted to go outside and I kept saying, we needed to stay in was a nightmare. I can't imagine what her mother is going through having to basically keep an eye on her 24/7. She's tried to get out of a moving car now 4 times. She asked me today to drive her around and after hearing the moving car story, I knew better and said I didn't have gas in my car. You cannot reason with her. You cannot trust her to go to the bathroom when she says that's where she's going as that is how she slipped out on me.
    And the doctor keeps telling the mother he doesn't see what she sees. HELLO, trying to exit a moving car is DANGEROUS!!!
    Wandering out of the house alone in her state is also dangerous.

    I don't know what this family is going to do, but it needs to be done soon. My friend, the mother, is going to end up having her own breakdown as she can't go anywhere by herself, she can't even go to the bathroom without the kid sneaking off. She can't sleep because of this happening. THe kid is very sneaky and manipulative and this is all new with the onset of the schizophrenia.

    It is so sad because 6 months ago, this was a vivacious, outgoing, funny, loveable child and now she's very quiet, very sneaky, very unreasonable, argumentative, but in a quiet kind of way. She NEVER raises her voice, she whispers. She is paranoid and doesn't seem to understand the consequences of her actions.
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    I am a minor, living in my parents house because by law I should be. However they are creating a unsafe enviroment for me to stay in, however they don't know I know. I have a bag packed just incase of emergancy, and I have a place to go thats safer.

    Is is wrong for me to leave a home that doesn't feel like a home, a home thats dangerous to stay in, a home that by law I should be living in, for a better one? One with a trusted friend, and trusted parents? It feels like my only option, I don't feel safe here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ravensilver;3186969;
    I am a minor, living in my parents house because by law I should be. However they are creating a unsafe enviroment for me to stay in, however they don't know I know. I have a bag packed just incase of emergancy, and I have a place to go thats safer.

    Is is wrong for me to leave a home that doesn't feel like a home, a home thats dangerous to stay in, a home that by law I should be living in, for a better one? One with a trusted friend, and trusted parents? It feels like my only option, I don't feel safe here.
    That is a tough question, probably not one for people who don't know the situation could properly handle. Is there a grown up you trust you could talk to? A teacher, etc?

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    ravensilver, if you are in a dangerous situation at home, then the law doesn't automatically require you stay in it. I would talk to a trusted adult. A teacher, minister, etc. A minister is required by law to keep confidences, so anything you would tell him or her would stay there, unless it was deemed so dire that your life was in danger and he would then be released to inform the authorities.

    But if it is that dangerous, then please, please tell someone who can help you.

    And if you are over 16, you can petition the courts to declare your majority. Which means you can ask a judge to declare that at 16, you have the rights of a legal adult and your parents are no longer required by law to be your guardians. They would also not be required by law to continue to support you financially either. But the judge would require evidence to be presented and testimony of your parents, you and trusted other adults who know the situation.

    Go talk to a trusted adult about all this.
    Good luck. I hope things work out.
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    What do you guys think about ravensilver calling the child abuse hotline and explaining the situation? That would be a way to get a third party involved, or they can at least advise whom to call.
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    I don't know enough of the situation to make that recommendation, shay. In my no so humble opinion, another trusted adult would be the best route.
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    Unkle - I hope your grandson makes a quick recovery and is healthy very soon.

    Raven - If there is anyone that you feel comfortable talking to about your situation (school counselor, aunt/uncle, etc) I think you should tell them what is going on at your home and see if they can help you.

    MRD - That sounds like a tough situation. I have a cousin that is about 40 years old and has bipolar disorder. He lives in a group home and cannot be left unattended. It is very sad. There are some very good mental health organizations that have inpatient and outpatient care for people with these disorders. I wonder if there are any in your area that could help your friend and her daughter?

    Speaking of mental health issues, I'm feeling really bad lately. Not for any good reason, either. I have such severe anxiety that gets in the way of the most simple, daily activities. It's exhausting, and, after awhile, depressing. Yesterday I had some showings to do for a rental and barely made it through. My heart was racing and skipping along and by the time I got home I was so exhausted I fell asleep on the couch. I just feel like I'm missing out on so much because of this problem I have.

    I am very lucky in that I have good insurance and have a very good anxiety specialist that I see weekly plus a great psychiatrist that I see monthly. I have to admit, though, nothing seems to be working. Last year I went the entire year without a panic attack at all - I thought I was cured! Then in February I decided to get my real estate license and midway through the week long course, I started panicking again, and it's been bad ever since. They seem to come and go and none of us can figure out what exactly it is that causes them..?!?!

    Right now they are hitting me hard, making the smallest of things near impossible. Feel like giving up at this point and sitting in my PJs all day because I'm so beat.

    Thanks for listening.

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    Unk, sounds like you and Zak have wonderful times together! I hope he's still feeling ok.

    MRD, sorry about your friend's daughter. I think it's wonderful of you to help out (even though it was tough on you).

    Silver, not knowing the dangers involved, you have a few different ways to help yourself. Talk to your school counsellor/principal/teacher, talk to your minister, talk to an older relative, talk to a friend's parents. If things are bad enough that you will get hurt, call now. Know that we care.

    onei, I'm sorry you're not feeling better. Maybe there's something you don't like about the real estate business.
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    Quote Originally Posted by onei0091;3187460;

    MRD - That sounds like a tough situation. I have a cousin that is about 40 years old and has bipolar disorder. He lives in a group home and cannot be left unattended. It is very sad. There are some very good mental health organizations that have inpatient and outpatient care for people with these disorders. I wonder if there are any in your area that could help your friend and her daughter?
    Speaking of mental health issues, I'm feeling really bad lately. Not for any good reason, either. I have such severe anxiety that gets in the way of the most simple, daily activities. It's exhausting, and, after awhile, depressing. Yesterday I had some showings to do for a rental and barely made it through. My heart was racing and skipping along and by the time I got home I was so exhausted I fell asleep on the couch. I just feel like I'm missing out on so much because of this problem I have.

    I am very lucky in that I have good insurance and have a very good anxiety specialist that I see weekly plus a great psychiatrist that I see monthly. I have to admit, though, nothing seems to be working. Last year I went the entire year without a panic attack at all - I thought I was cured! Then in February I decided to get my real estate license and midway through the week long course, I started panicking again, and it's been bad ever since. They seem to come and go and none of us can figure out what exactly it is that causes them..?!?!

    Right now they are hitting me hard, making the smallest of things near impossible. Feel like giving up at this point and sitting in my PJs all day because I'm so beat.

    Thanks for listening.
    That is part of the problem. The mental health care available in this area is virtually nil and what is available is not good. They have been trying for MONTHS to get her better mental health care and the doctor and facility have been horrible. Her next step is to take the kid to Atlanta which is about 2 hours from here and try to get her some decent care as the care she has been receiving is spotty and shoddy. I am actually APPALLED at the state of mental health care in this state. I have seen 2 different psychiatrists since I moved here and I hate both of them. Both shouldn't even be in the business in my opinion. But I need medication, so I continue to go to my appointments, but I don't bother to tell her anything as she doesn't want to hear it anyway.
    And I thought the mental health care was bad in Florida. It's horrible here.


    I hope you get some answers soon. Anxiety is the worst. You've had some progress which is hopeful. Things went well for a year and they will again. In the meantime, I know it's hard, but keep on trying and maybe you can find out what's triggering them.

    Have you ever kept a food journal? I have had some serious issues with food in the last few years and when I started keeping a food journal, we were able to pinpoint some things that I was doing or not doing that helped.
    My hypoglycemia can trigger a panic attack quickly. So log what you eat and when yoiu eat it and talk to your anxiety doctor. Maybe get some testing done for low blood sugar.
    Good luck

    Famita, I shouldn't have complained because I only had to deal with it for 2 hours and she has it 24/7. I can't imagine what she's going through as 2 hours j ust about wore me out yesterday. I hope they all get some relief soon.
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