I have to add on the bi-polar/depression discussion: I am extremely blessed with my husband. He knew when we started dating that I was struggling with depression. At that time I was not controlling it very well. But in the 22 years we've been together, having him be so wonderful, so supportive and just loving me have made a world of difference in my own successes with dealing with depression.
I asked him not long ago if he regretted getting involved with me because of the stuggles I've had over the years and he told me that he loved ME and he loved all of me and that he knew I couldn't help being "sick" and that because he loved me, he was willing to put up with some not so great times and was also very willing to help me overcome these same problems.
I have to say that if it weren't for him and his patience, love and understanding, I'm not sure I would be here today saying that I think I have been successful in dealing with my depression in the last few years.
Did he make a difference? YES, ABSOLUTELY.
So maybe your son shay can make a difference in this girls life.
I know my husband did in mine and I am forever grateful and thankful for him being in my life.