Canuck - sad times bring up other sad times. That's how we learn compassion. MRD -My heart goes out to your friend and her daughter. What was the father thinking? Of course my ex (then husband) wanted to go out and buy seedlings when I was in labor with our youngest. When I gave him the evil eye, he sat in a chair and read the paper. Men. My troubles involve a recent visit to my oncologist's nurse practitioner. She thought she felt "something" while giving me the exam (I have a lot of scar tissue with two surgery sites 3-4" apart) and while rifling through my folder to see what she should be feeling, she discovered I'm due to have an MRI next month, so said we'd just wait for that. Of course now I think I feel something, so the possibility of more surgery and chemo has me panicked, but I did just have a clean mammo in Dec. so "wait and see" is only for a few weeks. But it is amazing how fast I got back into the mindset of imagining my kids going through the next stages of their lives without me, etc. What a burden going through this house full of STUFF will be for them, etc. Breathe. Relax. Smell the roses. Read a book instead of mowing the lawn. What else can you do?