My thoughts and prayers will be with you Spoose. I hope your recovery is quick and painfree.
cahalanmac, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's friend. The only advice I have for you is to be there for him (which I'm sure you already are doing that) Don't be too pushy. When he wants to discuss the situation, he will come to you. He does need to eat though so he doesn't get sick.