mrd, I'm sorry to hear about your tummy. I hope it's better by now?! How are you feeling? I'm also sorry your husband has to be out of town so much, but it looks like you've got a good balance of being rightfully upset and understanding of his earning a living. A very good way to view it, but it doesn't always make it easier.
gut, you've been really quiet on the Dan story front. Is this another ongoing incident or had he been getting better? From the sounds of it, he still sounds VERY inconsiderate of everyone but himself. At this rate, you have the patience of a saint. As does your entire family. I'd be freaking out on him even if it doesn't solve anything. I'd be so much less understanding by now because he's been here a while, he's still not being considerate. Oh Dan, grow up please!