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    Quote Originally Posted by buglover;2845080;
    Lol at National Guard! Mr buglover went to the casino today so I guess when he gets back we will converse about this. I'm still feeling hurt by his comment and I know I have to try to put aside my feelings and hear him out.......even though I really don't want to... heehee
    Depend on if he wins or loses eh?

    Now this is JUST me, but I am not a gambler, so I'd have a bigger problem about the casino than I would with you having a few glasses of wine with the neighbors.
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    I'm so laid back about stuff. I don't care if he has dinner with friends that are girls or goes to the casino, etc. He never ever gets drunk or parties at all so I suppose that me getting tipsy means I'm not in control of my actions according to him. However I love to have a good time and after 8 years, he should know this about me by now. Oh well........we'll sort it out because we always do. Love conquers all but I'm going to get my point across for sure.
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    Quote Originally Posted by buglover;2845095;
    I'm so laid back about stuff. I don't care if he has dinner with friends that are girls or goes to the casino, etc. He never ever gets drunk or parties at all so I suppose that me getting tipsy means I'm not in control of my actions according to him. However I love to have a good time and after 8 years, he should know this about me by now. Oh well........we'll sort it out because we always do. Love conquers all but I'm going to get my point across for sure.
    Fair is fair. If he gets to go do what he enjoys, then why not you?

    What's wrong with the occasional tipsy party with neighbors if you enjoy it?

    It's not like you were throwing up in the bushes afterwards.

    Best to you both on working this out. Mr. Rosie and I have a few things we need to work out too. Mostly his having his own agenda and never telling me what it is and then gets cranky when my agenda doesn't match his.
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    Quote Originally Posted by myrosiedog;2845106;
    Fair is fair. If he gets to go do what he enjoys, then why not you?

    What's wrong with the occasional tipsy party with neighbors if you enjoy it?

    It's not like you were throwing up in the bushes afterwards.

    Best to you both on working this out. Mr. Rosie and I have a few things we need to work out too. Mostly his having his own agenda and never telling me what it is and then gets cranky when my agenda doesn't match his.

    I'll be holding your hand mrd if you hold mine during our working things out...
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    Re: Talk about your troubles

    Buglover, how is your husband in social situations? Is he on the reserved side, or even shy? He may have been critical of you, because actually he feels frustration over wishing he could be more like you. If you make it look easy, and for him it's anything but, he may grasp at straws to knock you down to where he believes himself to be. From your description, the only thing you're guilty of is having a good time. I would ask him why he has chosen to begrudge you that.
    Hey girl, if I had a party, I'd put you on the list, as you sound like an excellent party guest! Good luck with the upcoming conversation, and I hope it all works out.

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    Well we just talked and I explained to him that he makes me feel I have no right to be myself. I calmly explained I did nothing wrong, I followed the rule of no cussing and that should have been it. I did say that maybe he feels he should be the center of attention and if he's not, he has to cut me down. He did apologize sincerely for his comment and said he was being selfish when the host was talking to me about something he and I had in common (bad ex's) and he felt he couldn't get a word in. All is well for now but I will not stop being myself for anyone, not even him. Lopevian definitely put me on your party guest list! I'll go by myself so you and I can have some fun!! lol
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    buglover, glad to hear things are well with you and the mister. The first thing I thought when I read your original post was that he was jealous. Glad to hear you had a nice time! Good for you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by buglover;2844911;
    We weren't yelling, we were just excited about what we were talking about.
    Ok, I've vented...lol
    hmmmmmm.....I don't think the problem was how loud you talked or how overbearing you may have appeared...not at all...maybe just maybe it was how much fun you were having...

    sorry for meddling..
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    Re: Talk about your troubles

    After spending a boring evening watching tv tonight, I'd say you guys are a little right. Mr buglover is having jealousy issues because he feels the need to always be perfect since he became the manager of the apartments. It hit me at about 9pm tonight for some reason..lol

    It will pass after he realizes it's really not a power position that has to be perfect.
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    Quote Originally Posted by buglover;2845108;
    I'll be holding your hand mrd if you hold mine during our working things out...
    OK, consider it done!

    I was thinking along the same lines as everyone else. That there is a little jealousy involved. I know a few people that can't stand for anyone else to have fun for some reason. I hope you can work things out. Having a social life, is necessary in my opinion. I think having friends to do stuff with, help keeps me "balanced" and I'm not spending ALL my time with my husband. I think it helps me when I am with him as then I have stuff to talk about with him and I have another outlet so he also gets more "quality" time with me than just us being together ALL the time without other people. I'm very social and I need to be around others. I think it helps "fuel" me for the rest of my life, so to speak.

    Last night, mine laughed at me because well, I suppose I had done something funny (beer foam through the nose is funny right? ) and we were cutting up and I went to play kick him. He moved as I did and my big toe connected HARD with his shin. I had on house slippers.
    Well now the knuckle under the big toe is bruised, swollen and HURTS LIKE @#$%#$!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I'm fairly sure I just jammed it, but still.

    And he's laughed about that. Says that's what I get for "spousal abuse".

    I didn't mean to kick hard and if he hadn't moved, it probably wouldn't have happened like it did. But now I'm ticked that he thinks its funny I am hurt. Yeah, not a huge deal. But still. Like I used to tell my daughter, roughhousing usually ends up in tears.

    He has a shirt that says: It's funny until someone gets hurt, then it's freakin' hilarious.
    He is wearing that today.

    I am considering some exlax in his coffee.
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