Fortunately for the kids, their mother is a wonderful person and their step-dad who has been more of a father to them than the bio one is also a wonderful parent and has been a very good influence on both kids. And once the kids got into their teens, they could see what a schmuck their father was.
ETA: the grown boy is an Eagle Scout and his stepdad was his scout leader.
I asked my friend one time why she married such an idiot. She said she was only 15 when she met him, she had a bad home life and he gave her the love she was not getting at home and by the time she realized what a scumbag he was, they were married and had 2 small children. She divorced him when the daughter was 2 and the son was 5. He didn't pay child support for almost 5 years after they broke up. I remember her telling me that she had broken her ankle and couldn't work and they were living on state aid and had $25 a week for food for the 3 of them. The scumbags father was a big contractor and had a lot of money and she asked him to help out his grandkids and he turned her down flat. Nice family all around huh?
But when the new man came into her life, it all turned around. It's like a fairy tale story. He and my husband also became very good friends and our families did a lot together. They are the ones that gave us the going away party when we moved. The kids want to take his name and the girl said years ago that when she gets married, it will be the stepdad that walks her down the aisle, not her father. So as you can imagine, things have not been good for a long time with their bio dad and the kids know it.
I saw the press conference that the dad of the murdered girl gave and I couldn't watch it. I had to turn it off. It was so sad. I told my husband not to watch it at all. It's online from the local tv station.
Miss Kitty, I'm so sorry to hear that justice was not served in the case with your friends. I don't understand why these things happen. But I try to hold on to the fact that our system isn't perfect, but that it does work most of the time.
In this case, the murder had never been arrested before at all. 36 years old and no priors for anything. Weird. What made him just decide to follow this girl home and abduct, rape and kill her?
Yep, my parents also told me the same thing. They would still love me, but they would not protect me if I did something horrible.
My husband watches The First 48 on Tru tv and the other day they had a case where the family was harboring a man wanted for murder and the neighbors basically told the family that if they didn't turn him in, they'd come and kill the family. You can guess this was in one of the worst neighborhoods in Miami. But at least it got the people to turn in their scumbag son. And the family called the police screaming for protection from the threats they got from their neighbors. The world is a messed up place. And it always has been. Being a student of history, I have read some pretty horrible atrocities that have been committed and when people say the world today is bad, its nothing like it used to be. I honestly do think as a whole we are much safer today and several hundred years ago. And this kind of stuff has happened in the 20th century no matter what people say. It's just that it wasn't reported as quickly and widely as it is today with all the media outlets we have.
My grandmother's sister's first husband was murdered during the depression for the money he had on him which was less than $10.
It's a sad fact of life, but humans murder other humans and have since caveman days. It doesn't make it right though.