Originally Posted by livin4reality;2661265;
I am not quite in your situation, but I do have a 16 year old that works and goes to school. But it does not mean she gets a free ride at home. I am not super diligent about making her do her chores, but she does have them and she needs to do them. Time management is something that all of us have to learn at one point or another in life and the younger its learned is probably the better.
As adults, our time is extremely busy, but I also know that I have certain responsibilities that need to be done regardless of what else I have going on.
I now write EVERYTHING down on my calender, even if its trivial because I've found that if I write something trivial like send aunt a note, then it will get done. If it's not on my calender then I tend to put it off. But I get such satisfaction by crossing things OFF my list, that I write it all down. Maybe such a system would work for the son.
As for the stepfather/stepson relationship, my mother had 2 stepsons (my brothers) and when they lived with my parents, they had to abide by the rules of the house, including my mom's and not just their dad's. Since your son lives with you and his stepfather, then there should be rules and consequences that all 3 of you are aware of and maybe sitting down and talking amongst the 3 of you about the problems, the things needing to be done and what is going to happen should they not get done, would make it easier on all the relationships. Just because he is the stepfather and not the bio father, doesn't mean he gets no say. It's his house too. It's all 3 of your's home and in our house it takes EVERYONE that lives here making an effort to make things run and it should be in other households as well regardless of who's related to who.