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    MRD, you know we're here for you!

    B73, don't worry about small or big problems-we're here if you want to share. There are many problem solvers here that like to help you! I know that they've helped me a lot!

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    MRD definitely deserves our well-wishes and positive thoughts, but so do you, Butterfly! Both of you are such wonderful women on this site, and I am keeping you both in my prayers.

    My oldest, the one who was in a car wreck with her dad a while back, is doing really well. All her stitches are out and she has only the cast to hassle with now! We did end up getting the waterproof one, so she's been able to hang out by the pool and enjoy her summer as much as possible. Her 13th b-day was the 5th, but she wanted to wait to have her party until we are moved into the new house and her cast comes off...

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    Butterfly.
    No matter where you go, someone is always going to have a worse problem. That's why I was kind of shocked at my own reaction today as I have been handling this very well because I keep telling myself it could be so much worse. I lost several friends to cancer last year. One a VERY close friend who was only 39 and had young kids. So compared to him, I'm LUCKY and I know I'm lucky.

    I used to work for a doctor and the first day there the RN told me: "what you see is going to become routine, but each patient that comes here, has their own unique problems and they are concerned about them and we must treat each patient like they are the ONLY ones that have a problem" It was great advice (wish more doctor's offices shared it) and that is true. When YOU own the problem, its your problem, no matter how big or small and it deserves to be treated in a manner benefitting that problem. You can't compare yourself to others (unless you do like I do and try to be positive and think that I could have much worse diseases than MS) because your problems are important to you, big or small. Same as everyone. Heck, even thinking I'm fortunate, my problems still bother me, but I do try not to let them get to me like I did today. But I guess everyone is entitled to a pity party. I've just learned not to stay at the party too long or have them too often. So don't be afraid to post problems. They are important to you, so therefore, they are important to us. We are a very supportive group here as you can tell.

    So now that I've cried and talked to my husband who has assured me that I'm ok (He is really my anchor, I don't know what I would do sometimes without him. He's able to reel me back in when I've gone off the deep end like today. Oh and all 3 dogs were climbing all over me and all got to lick the tears off my face. Better than a kleenex.

    And I got in the car and went for a drive. Stopped for an iced coffee and just spent an hour driving around listening to the radio and I feel much better. And have decided that I wasn't so much crying because I was upset, but more out of relief. Relief that I'm FINALLY going to get some answers, relief that I have found an MS specialist that is going to help me after dealing with some real winners before this. To have such a caring doctor today I think was a true surprise. My GP is very caring, but she has been limited to what she can do about this.

    Anyway, you guys on here are true blue friends. What in the world would I do without you? I appreciate ALL your kind words, thoughts and prayers. You are the best and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    I was just having a little freakout session earlier, but I am much better now. It's amazing what dog kisses and an iced coffee can do isn't it? And friends and loved ones. Thanks again guys.

    Oh! and Remote Goddess. That's great news about your daughter. I'm so glad she's able to enjoy her summer.
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    Oh wow, I am so sorry to hear about your daughter's accident, but I'm so happy she is getting better. I'm glad she is able to enjoy her summer. Tell her Happy Birthday! Where is the cast? It's great you were able to get a waterproof one for her.

    Congrats on your new house. I'm going to have to go and read everybody's older posts so I can know what's going on.

    MRD, I love that. I too wish all Doctor's shared that policy. You are A very strong person and you husband sounds great too. I'm glad that you finally found what you needed in a Doctor, he sounds like he will do good things for you. I wish you all the very best. I'm sending big hugs you way.

    I think A dog is the best medicine for ANYTHING.

    remote goddess, thank you so much. You guys are the best.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Butterfly723;2469711;

    I think A dog is the best medicine for ANYTHING.

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    And that is the God's honest truth! Mine have been a source of joy and comfort to me anytime I'm feeling sick. If I have to stay in bed, Bogie stays with me, he never moves unless I do.

    But all 3 just keep me going (partly because I know if something happens to me, then they will all die of thirst as no one else in the house ever notices that BOTH water bowls are ALWAYS empty) and are treasures to have.

    A dog can sure cure what ails you.

    I need to read back, but I don't know what your troubles are Butterfly, but I do know something about a cast? Anyway, I am sending you healing thoughts and prayers too. So many have been sent my way, I have to share, there's plenty to go around.
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    mrd... when you wrote about crying I was going to post that it was probably at least in part from relief that someone finally asked the right questions! I did that once, over something much less immediately serious than MS, but I did it right in the doctor's office! Talk about embarrassing---and ever since then the doctor asks me how I'm feeling in a way that tells me he thinks I must have been clinically depressed and he's afraid I'll slip back again. But no, it was just the tension relief of someone actually listening when I was all geared up and braced for a struggle. Did it another time with a med tech person, who thankfully doesn't know my doc, when a routine test that I'd always found to be very painful turned out not to be that time. Had forced myself to do something I was sure was going to be awful but necessary, and when it wasn't it was kind of like getting ready to lift a heavy load and discovering the box was full of feathers... whoop! over you go!
    Anyway, so glad you found a good doc. Once you have your MRI you might call the office and say you've had it, and if there are any cancellations you'd really like to see the dr. sooner... especially if you are still having these serious hand symptoms, and tell the office about them. Fortunately so far they do not interfere with the most important hand function of all, typing to FORT!

    Critical--oops yes, forgot the interior is way hotter than the coasts, probably for both No Cal and So Cal. As you can tell from that, I've pretty much always been a coastal person when it comes to CA. The ones I feel for are the people in places like Portland OR and Astoria, with heat way way above comfortable who never need AC and therefore don't have it. If I didn't have mine I could never sleep at night....
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    I am way inland and it was brutal here for a few days. Last night it rained. I LOVE the rain. Love, Love, Love!!! I have to run my AC all the time when It's hot because of the cast. Usually just a ceiling fan will do but not this summer.

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    Cats are the other best medicine.

    I have nothing much else to add that hasn't already been said -- I'm just nodding in agreement. Sounds corny, but life is full of ups and downs, and it could always be worse, or better, and it's always changing. I try to see purpose in the journey being how we deal with it, and sometimes that means "Talk about your troubles." What a great and important thread.

    I'm glad to hear of progress and relief, and also honored to be there for the bad times.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lei;2470015;
    Cats are the other best medicine.

    I have nothing much else to add that hasn't already been said -- I'm just nodding in agreement. Sounds corny, but life is full of ups and downs, and it could always be worse, or better, and it's always changing. I try to see purpose in the journey being how we deal with it, and sometimes that means "Talk about your troubles." What a great and important thread.

    I'm glad to hear of progress and relief, and also honored to be there for the bad times.
    Wow, that's so sweet of you. Most people do not feel honored, but bothered. I'm lucky to have such wonderful support.
    Yep, life is a roller coaster and the best thing is to hang on and try to enjoy most of the ride (and to try not to get puked on. )
    Life is indeed a journey and if I were to have a tombstone one day, it would have the immortal grateful dead line: "What a long strange trip it's been" engraved on it. At least I hope it's long. Strange has already happened.

    I'm sure cats are great medicine. I however am unfortunately highly allergic to cats which is why I enjoy everyone's photos and cat stories here because I have to admire from afar. We used to have kitties, but when my allergies got so severe (around 10 years old) we couldn't have anymore. I would love to have a cat, but I also would like to breathe and not break out in hives.

    PWS, you are so right that relief can bring up a lot of emotion. I had to smile about the doc thinking you have problems when he sees you. Maybe you should reassure him you're fine and not going to burst into tears anymore. There's probably a note in your chart about breaking bad news to you without a nurse being present. Just kidding. I'm sure most doctors have SEEN it all. Even the short time I worked for the doctor, we saw it all and they kind of do develop a thick skin. But a thick skin is ok as long as it doesn't affect their patient relationships and cause them to be cynical and lose any bedside manner they might have had (although some never had any to begin with). But I'm sure that tears are not foreign to most doctors.

    Thanks again guys. I can always count on you guys to cheer me up.

    I also met one of those random angels you hear about today. I dropped my daughter at the Y and went to the grocery store. I was struggling with a watermelon (still not supposed to pick up more than 5 pounds) and this tiny little old man helped me (although I don't think he shoudl have been picking it up either.) He was so sweet and we ended up standing there talking for at least 10 min. He was on a hospital ship during WWII and since I'm a huge history fan and major with a special interest in WWII, I ate it up and asked him a lot of questions. I know he was thrilled to have the attention (you can tell when they have no one who's interested in hearing these stories at home) and so I got to hear a couple really interesting stories. He made my day and I think I made his as well. He was just so happy and pleasant and fun to talk too. So the rest of the day was actually special because of that chance meeting over a watermelon.
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    Quote Originally Posted by myrosiedog;2470392;
    So the rest of the day was actually special because of that chance meeting over a watermelon.
    That's the kind of moment I find really helpful in dark times. Thank you for sharing it.

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