well, we are being fed well.
He got a job (quickly) as a dishwasher at an expensive retirement community here. and has already moved into cook several days a week.
and they cannot re-serve leftovers, so he brings home complete meals for us after work. Todays for lunch I am having beef stew (from prime rib) with mashed potatoes and bread. He is really tyring to show his gratefulness, and trying to be very open and friendly.
I think we made a good choice here - we have been bitten several times before by her choices and were hesitant.
and I am one of those mothers who cannot just throw out her kids. We own a double (we purchased when my MIL and us moved 23 years ago). we don't want to be landlords, and when she passed away 5 years ago, my son was starting college and he moved in (it is 3 bedrooms, but I have one for my home office where I work every day).
so that has worked out. He is finishing his masters and heading off (can I say finally) at 25 to get his PhD up north. So he is moving out, and she is moving in - Until she finishes school and can get out on her own.
Have I hurt them by giving them an easy life so far? Maybe, but they are good kids. Neither one has gotten into drugs or any problems with the law - and both are in college. Did I want a 'professional student'? - not really, but they deserve a good start. And we can afford it now, so why not?
I'm still waiting for the day we can sell off this place for rentals and get myself a bright, sunny condo. but, for now, that isn't in the near future, and hubby has said to just hold off until we retire (about 10 years).
I think we will find a compromise somewhere inbetween