Newf - You came to the wrong place if you didn't want hugs and prayers. We care too much about you. I'm so sorry about both of your losses, and will be thinking of you often, dear man.
Pom - Glad your mom finally got in to see a doctor and that it was productive. Keep up the good work. I know it isn't easy.
As for the missing boyfriend, not to be morbid, but I had a neighbor a few years ago whose boyfriend didn't call her for a few days and she got mad and didn't call him - only to find out a week later that he had had a heart attack and nobody found the body all that time. I agree that you should at least make sure he's alright.