Maderia- I am so sorry to here all your bad news. I lost my grandmother around christmas one year. I know this is a difficult time to lose someone you were close to. and try to enjoy all that you have left. I have a co-worker from hell as well. I think they were spawned from the same demonic force because for a minute I thought you were at my work. I can empathize but really don't know how you feel. I don't want you to think I am saying that. Just hang on and try not to dwell on the bad as much as you can. Things will get better.