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    I think it can be harder to learn to forgive YOURSELF than anything else. I've got to forgive myself for MY choice.

    Another thing I've learned is that, at the end of life's road, should your parent apologize to you and ask your forgiveness for the unintentional mistakes they made with you, the pain of the mistakes seem to vanish....like *poof!* It's amazing, really.
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    Quote Originally Posted by prhoshay View Post
    I think it can be harder to learn to forgive YOURSELF than anything else. I've got to forgive myself for MY choice.

    Another thing I've learned is that, at the end of life's road, should your parent apologize to you and ask your forgiveness for the unintentional mistakes they made with you, the pain of the mistakes seem to vanish....like *poof!* It's amazing, really.
    I think its very hard to do. I have said sorry many times( sometimes not always sure of what) and all was not forgiven. I have gently closed the door on that part of my life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnnyK View Post
    In my present right now, I still struggle with people both involved in my personal life and those who are not.

    Like the management of the building I live in.

    They are very much useless. And have been for years.

    We need our windows fixed

    No.

    We need someone to look at our fridge

    No.

    Our neighbors are causing trouble.

    No.

    Never.
    Now, I was obviously angry when I made this post.

    But the thing is, we do what we can. We did our part. I can't physically replace a window by myself. That's what those staffers are for, no? Or at least, that's what they should be for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnnyK View Post
    Now, I was obviously angry when I made this post.

    But the thing is, we do what we can. We did our part. I can't physically replace a window by myself. That's what those staffers are for, no? Or at least, that's what they should be for.
    I'd be angry, too. But I'd do something about it.
    Kip had good advice upthread:
    Is there a tenant's aid society where you live? I'm not sure they'd be able to help with noise issue, but they could help with legally withholding rent money for the refrigerator and windows and putting it into an escrow account.
    That -- or something similar, depending on landlord/tenant laws where you live -- would be a great first step in actively taking control of the situation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fanny Mare View Post
    I think its very hard to do. I have said sorry many times( sometimes not always sure of what) and all was not forgiven. I have gently closed the door on that part of my life.
    I don't apologize unless I really mean it. I'm not a fan of empty words or empty sentiments.
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    Quote Originally Posted by prhoshay View Post
    I don't apologize unless I really mean it. I'm not a fan of empty words or empty sentiments.
    Well, that why we are all different. I might not have worded it correctly, but never did I feel my sentiments were empty.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fanny Mare View Post
    I think its very hard to do. I have said sorry many times( sometimes not always sure of what) and all was not forgiven. I have gently closed the door on that part of my life.
    You are a very strong person FM. Maybe one day she will see that life can be lived happily. That is my wish for her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by inthegarden View Post
    You are a very strong person FM. Maybe one day she will see that life can be lived happily. That is my wish for her.
    Yes, it's my wish for her as well inthegarden, thank you. I would like to think I will be part of it, but that's okay- as long she finds happy. She will be 40 next year, she has wasted a lot of time
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    All I'll say is that I lost my only friend (he gave up on me) and have lost all hope. That's all. Don't feel like explaining more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnnyK View Post
    All I'll say is that I lost my only friend (he gave up on me) and have lost all hope. That's all. Don't feel like explaining more.
    JohnnyK, You may have temporarily lost hope - but hope still exists - and you WILL find it again.

    Maybe in time you will be able to repair the relationship with your friend. But, if not, other people will come into your life.

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