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    I also opened the door for three cowboys who had bandanna masks pulled over their faces like in the old West! And I said to them ... wow ... I can't believe I opened the door for three "masked men" ... and one of said yeah ... you're about the 10th person who has said that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by echo226 View Post
    Well Halloween and Trick or Treaters is just around the corner.

    Last year I had kids push the door further open because they wanted to see/pet the dog!

    I also turned off the porch light at 10 pm ... and covered the door bell button. 3 teen girls ripped the cover off the bell and rang the bell anyway!
    Bold and rude.

    SO ... can't win for losing.
    Interesting. Most cities have curfews on when trick-r-treating ends. In my city, it is 8pm. I live in a neighborhood with a lot of kids. The police start patrolling around 7:30. Last year, they actually "escorted" some teenagers home who were still out after 8pm. Check for your city, echo!

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    Yes the City suggests some "curfew" times but doesn't enforce it. ....It's the "big kids" that are out late and if you are truly out of edible treats ... they expect money. You can't be nasty to the bigger kids or send them away ... because they'll come back later and egg the house or otherwise vandalize.

    My friends and I used to go house to house and say we were on a scavenger hunt ... and people didn't mind.
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    My depression is pretty bad today, I feel like.

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    Talk about your troubles

    I will preface this with an apology regarding the length.

    I'm incredibly frustrated with my job and my financial situation. I never finished college due to a personal tragedy and because of many other reasons I never went back despite my desire to work as a school librarian. As a result my options are fairly limited. I worked in 3 different call centers over a 13 year period. Most people think its an easy job bit it's really quite stressful. In addition to the ridiculous scheduling that keep you from having a normal social and family life (probably the reason I've never married or had kids) and missing every holiday, working weekends and mandatory overtime, you also have to deal with micro managing ego tripping management. My last call center job I was doing pretty well as I was making almost $16/hr plus working 10 or more hours of overtime a week. Sure I had to put up with all the aforementioned crap but I was able to have a really nice savings and was able to buy pretty much what I wanted whenever I wanted. Then the greedy SOB CEO decided that he deserved a $40M bonus one year and laid off the higher paying (not to mention the higher quality) workers in order to pay for it and gave our jobs to people in Mexico and the Philippines who were willing to work for $3/hr. It took me 6 months of being on unemployment and blowing through all my savings just so I could pay my bills and keep my house. I did finally find the payroll job I'm in now (I was bound and determined never to work in another call center ever again) and have been relatively happy in for 4 years. They started me at $10/hr. I didn't have enough money to feed myself and more often than not had to eat at my parents house but I was happy to have a job that I actually enjoyed for once. I quickly started getting tiny raises as each level of training (there were 6) I completed were rewarded with a little bump. The final one being a large bump to around $12. And each year I get a little tiny raise with a good evaluation. When I hit my 3 year anniversary I made it to $13.47. The last 4 years have been okay except for the few times I had an emergency expense and my parents had to bail me out. I could pay my bills and feed myself and have a tiny amount left over for going out with friends. Since I now work 8-5 M-F I can now be involved in church, volunteer and have a social life. Not to mention holidays off to spend with my family. Just after My 3 year anniversary and bump to $13.47 I was asked to work remotely out of my current office in OKC for the office in Dallas since I'm work so well independently. I was told I would get a raise to $16.50/hr to do this so obviously I jumped at the chance. Here's what happened though. First, the OKC office had to hire my replacement and I had to move to another desk which was 3/4 smaller and in a corner all by myself. Second, I was asked to travel to Dallas to meet the management and my team. Even though I was reimbursed I had to pay for my travel expenses out of pocket upfront. Not cool! Especially since I was put up in a fancy hotel for over $100 a night. At least I drove my dad's truck down rather than fly or rent a car (it's only a 3 hour drive). Then, I was told that corporate approved the raise because they thought I was physically moving to Dallas (the cost of living there is much higher than OKC and $16.50 there isn't really a living wage anymore than $13.47 is here in OKC) so they took the raise away before I even got my first paycheck out of Dallas. Another issue is that I went from having an average of 180 clients (which is manageable) to an average of 300 clients. Year end was a complete nightmare! I have so many clients its difficult to keep up! On the Wednesdays that land on the week if the 15th or the last of the month I average over 100 appts in a day. Last month I had 130 in one day! When I had my 4 year anniversary evaluation last month my boss was pleased as punch to tell me that in every category she gave me a "meets and sometimes exceeds expectations" in a couple of categories and an "always exceeds expectations" in all other categories and that I got a $.50 raise. So I now make $13.97/hour. Well WHOOP-DEE-DOO!!!! In May my truck died and I had no choice but to get a new car so now I have a car payment. I was okay for a couple of months because my friend was living with me until she had to move to Arizona for grad school so she gave me a little for rent and pitched in more than enough for groceries. I did get a nice bonus in July as well. But now, even with the raise my income doesn't cover all of my financial obligations. I've cut my bills as much as I can by getting rid of cable (that one hurt!) and doing "smart hours" with my electric company. Those things have helped enough that u can just barely pay the bills. But I can't buy groceries or dog food (the dog is the reason I can't get a part time job-that wouldn't be fair to him) or go out to eat with my friends anymore (which is a big part of our after church Sunday ritual). I also can't buy shampoo or other toiletries that I need. And God forbid if something needs to be repaired at my house or I want to paint or decorate something. Such luxuries are beyond my means. I flat out told my boss that I had to make more money. She was sympathetic but won't do anything to help me. I've applied for other jobs but have gotten no responses. I'm at my whit's end here! I literally have no idea what I'm going to do at this point...


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    Re: Talk about your troubles

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnnyK View Post
    My depression is pretty bad today, I feel like.
    very bad.

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    Johnny K I hope you are feeling better.I hope you can let go of whatever makes you anxious.
    You can do it!

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    Johnny K - do you have things that have worked in the past at alleviating your depression? Laughter helps a lot of people - watch a funny movie or youtube clips (did you see the one about the New Zealand guys who hooked all of their friend's faucets in his house to flow with beer instead of water?). I don't know much about your history - have you ever seen a doctor about your recurring depression to check for chemical/hormonal imbalances or food issues? On youtube, search for "food hospital depression" - it's an episode where they use diet to cure a woman's depression. I'm sure it doesn't work for everyone with depression, but it might be worth a try. You're such a bright, clever young man - I'm sorry you're suffering with this.

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    I'm sorry you're having a hard time Johnny And me going on and on about my own problems. At least I'm fairly happy otherwise. I've dealt with depression in the past so I understand what it's like. I hope things get better for you.


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    Stacerace - gosh, I'm sorry you're having such a struggle. It sounds like you're the kind of employee anyone would be glad to have. I had a friend who worked at a Comcast call center for a few years and remember how stressful it was for her. It sounds like there's not much upward or lateral promotion opportunities at call centers. Keep looking for other jobs - I know it's tough right now with so many companies cutting back on full-time employees to avoid the ObamaCare regulations. Just keep applying - I know not hearing anything back is frustrating and depression - but it's a numbers game. You said a friend stayed with you for a while and helped out with the rent - do you have a spare bedroom you could rent out for a while? If so, that could help you build up a little cushion again.

    I know you're probably beat after working all day, but are there people in your church or neighborhood who you can babysit for? My daughter (age 28) charges $20/hour. (I told her if she ever needs a sub, to let me know! - when I babysat, I used to earn 50 cents/hr).

    A large proportion of jobs are gotten through networking. Let family, friends, church members, etc., know you're looking for a job/career change. I once had a young man a degree in architecture from UC Berkeley working for me doing database entry because he couldn't find a job in his field. One of my secretaries was married to an architect - she got him an interview at her husband's firm and he ended up getting a job there.

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