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    Quote Originally Posted by prhoshay View Post
    Debb, take the cat and go home! Her problems are not YOUR problems unless you allow them to be. Don't accept doormat treatment.
    By all means take that poor cat who does NOT deserve that and go home. PERIOD! You don't deserve it either. As my dear departed (6 yrs) Mona would do-
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    "...each affects the other, and the other affects the next, and the world is full of stories, but the stories are all one." - Mitch Albom, one helluva writer

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    I think I would reduce the number of weekly visits. That way she is taken care of it and she sees that you are a bit from quoting altogether.

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    Quote Originally Posted by just1paul View Post
    By all means take that poor cat who does NOT deserve that and go home. PERIOD! You don't deserve it either. As my dear departed (6 yrs) Mona would do-
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    Oh and a PS - part of your post Deb was that she yells at her cat for little or no reason.. There is NO reason to yell at cats, dogs etc., That is abuse to me.
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    Did she always yell at the cat? Or is that just since the latest injury, or whatever brought you into the caretaking role? Does the cat seem to care? I ask because while dogs generally do seem to care and be upset when yelled at, a lot of cats don't seem to...just walk away. (I've had both cats and dogs and love both, not putting down either species here!) If the cat does seem terrorized maybe you do need to do something....

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    Quote Originally Posted by just1paul View Post
    Oh and a PS - part of your post Deb was that she yells at her cat for little or no reason.. There is NO reason to yell at cats, dogs etc., That is abuse to me.
    I agree Paul , it is abuse.
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    Maybe she's feeling overwhelmed. Are you in a position to adopt her cat? If so, ask her if she would like you to care for it in your home for "a while" as she recuperates.
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    Sounds like she's been raised to be a jerk, if you ask me. I'd go home and make her call me, with a change in her tone and attitude.
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    Even when I have felt overwhelmed I never yelled at any four leggers.

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    I love your post just1paul !

    Me either...Well except for last week when Cooper cat decided he would 'taste' the unlit peppermint candles in a Christmas arrangement I had sitting on the table. But... I yelled out of fear instead of anger and he froze, dropped the candle and scalded out of there. And I...removed the candles. *shame on me* I never dreamed he had my addiction for peppermint.


    What I have trouble with, is the guilt I heap on myself for closing out my abusive inherited relative. I know it is for the best, but the holidays are hard because I live (in my mind) in a rose colored Norman Rockwell family all together for the holidays world. And I know it's not possible due to this person and the backlash I received for finally saying " I'm done, I just can't do this anymore ."
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