I think I would reduce the number of weekly visits. That way she is taken care of it and she sees that you are a bit from quoting altogether.
Flattery to extract more use
Did she always yell at the cat? Or is that just since the latest injury, or whatever brought you into the caretaking role? Does the cat seem to care? I ask because while dogs generally do seem to care and be upset when yelled at, a lot of cats don't seem to...just walk away. (I've had both cats and dogs and love both, not putting down either species here!) If the cat does seem terrorized maybe you do need to do something....:(
Maybe she's feeling overwhelmed. Are you in a position to adopt her cat? If so, ask her if she would like you to care for it in your home for "a while" as she recuperates.
Sounds like she's been raised to be a jerk, if you ask me. I'd go home and make her call me, with a change in her tone and attitude.
Even when I have felt overwhelmed I never yelled at any four leggers.
:lol I love your post just1paul !
Me either...Well except for last week when Cooper cat decided he would 'taste' the unlit peppermint candles in a Christmas arrangement I had sitting on the table. But... I yelled out of fear instead of anger and he froze, dropped the candle and scalded out of there. And I...removed the candles. *shame on me* I never dreamed he had my addiction for peppermint. :mmm
What I have trouble with, is the guilt I heap on myself for closing out my abusive inherited relative. I know it is for the best, but the holidays are hard because I live (in my mind) in a rose colored Norman Rockwell family all together for the holidays world. And I know it's not possible due to this person and the backlash I received for finally saying " I'm done, I just can't do this anymore :crying."