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    Re: Current fads you wish would die off today...

    Quote Originally Posted by AJane;2454562;
    Stephanie's post illustrates the point I was trying to make, actually. A tiny child in a two-piece suit used to be considered "cute" - now it's looked at with disapproving eyes. It seems terribly unfair that a preschooler would be expected to wear a full set of clothes to go into a pool.
    Anyway, if a child is still in diapers or pull-ups, a two-piece is far more convenient for changes than having to yank a wet one-piece off.

    Steph's post mentioned that this was a STRING bikini. HUGE difference between a string bikini and a 2 piece suit on a 3yo. As a mom of 2, I don't have a problem with a 2 piece on my 13yo. But if she wanted a string bikini, yes I would disapprove. It all comes down to the cut of the cloth.
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    Quote Originally Posted by livin4reality;2454584;
    Steph's post mentioned that this was a STRING bikini. HUGE difference between a string bikini and a 2 piece suit on a 3yo. As a mom of 2, I don't have a problem with a 2 piece on my 13yo. But if she wanted a string bikini, yes I would disapprove. It all comes down to the cut of the cloth.
    This was what I was referring to in both the joke and question I asked in my last post. I would think a two piece would be more comfortable for a 3 or 4 year old than a string bikini. In that case, I would imagine it is the parent inflicting their 'fashion sense' on the toddler, not the child making the choices.
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    I would be very surprised to hear of any three-year-old who insisted on a particular style of suit. The mother would have dressed that young of a child, and I must clarify - I'm not attempting to tell anyone how to dress their own children. I'm sure there are many 13-year-old girls who want bikinis. It's up to the parent to guide them in regards to style and fit.
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    Since I don't have children, I can only live in a world of delusion... under the impression that I would actually have control over what my children do. I sympathize with all you responsible parents who are trying to raise your offspring in the face of influences from Brittany, Lindsay, and Paris. However, a parent who starts dressing their toddler in a string bikini is just asking for what they will inevitably get.
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    And what would that be, exactly?

    My original point is that we are over-sexualizing our children. I simply cannot understand why anyone would look at a toddler as a sexual being because they were wearing a two-piece bathing suit. I mean, was the child wearing high heels and lipstick as well?

    I question how much influence Britney, Paris et. al have on kids, particularly very young ones. I think the parents are more influenced by them, frankly. My 8 and 4-year-olds certainly don't know who they are.
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    Re: Current fads you wish would die off today...

    Quote Originally Posted by Uncle David;2454614;
    However, a parent who starts dressing their toddler in a string bikini is just asking for what they will inevitably get.
    Wow, I think it's a huge leap to assume that because a toddler wears a string bikini, she's destined for trouble.
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    One thing that I've also learned, and I'm sure plenty of parents have also discovered this is, you may send your child out dressed one way, and they will change clothes once you have disappeared. Unless they are going to be with you the entire time, I'd strongly suggest that you do an invisible "drop-in parent check" once they've gotten where they are going and have been there for about 30-45 minutes. There's no need to embarass your child; they need, never, to know you were there. I've found that when an establishment knows that you are a parent doing a check, they will cooperate. I did it with my son (who wasn't trying to wear a string bikini, thank goodness...whole different set of issues involved there! ) and was glad to have my mind put at rest about his behavior....but I did find out that he would change clothes after he left home if I had dressed him in something that he didn't want to wear!
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    Uncle David:

    Yeah, it's delusionary. We pretend to listen most of the time, or listen, then form our own opinions to counter what the parent just said. Oh no, it's not a deluded world at all! We always listen, and sometimes, we ask our parents for advice!

    Or sometimes, we go against our parent's wishes anyways. I wear a string bikini [[]], and to say that my mom approves would be like me saying that I think the world is a good place. She wants me to return it, it doesn't fit right, it's not supposed to be showing that much cleavage, on and on... However, it fits me right, whereas one-piece suits don't. I don't have any issues with small childreen in 2-piece suits, it's when the kid is in virtually the same thing as me that it starts to become an issue.
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    Re: Current fads you wish would die off today...

    To my mind, a string bikini, while not my cup of tea personally (and the world thanks me for that) in an appropriate place (a beach, a pool, a back yard) is much less trashy and much more acceptable than a fully body covering set of clothing including a pair of sweat pants with the word "Juicy" printed across the butt and a sweatshirt with the words "Porn Star" printed across the chest. I made a point of checking out the young women yesterday on the way home and honestly, the sight of a bare shoulder or a bit of midriff was not remotely discomfiting. The aforementioned "Porn Star" clothes, however, are. Basically, it's how everything gets put together and skin shouldn't be considered the enemy.
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    This is why men should stay the hell out of conversations regarding women's clothing. .

    I guess I'm wrong in what I thought a string bikini is. I was thinking it was one of those bikinis they refer to as 'floss'. I don't think of that as a 'two-piece'. A toddler dressed in one of those bikinis might as well have on lipstick and high heels. A parent dressing a child like that is the one I said would suffer the consequences I feel would inevitably arise.

    Personally, when I see a toddler, male or female, I don't see a sexual being. Regardless of what they are wearing. Having lived at the beach most of my life I am used to seeing young girls on the beach with no top on at all. They look the same as the young boys their age.

    Having said all of that, I'm a 58 year old man. As such, I'm not a big fan of pre-adolescent girls dressing like Brittany, Lindsay or Paris. Just my personal opinion.
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