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    My husband, who is a smoker, has just been hospitalized with pneumonia for the third time. I have GOT to find some way to convince him to quit smoking for good. I just don't know how to do it. I know that it is something that he has to do himself and to do that he has to want to do it, but it's just so frustrating to me that he would endanger his health and his life in this way.
    Many years ago, when I finally decided to quit smoking, I didn't do it because anyone pressured or hounded me to. It had nothing to do with non-smoking areas, or people who didn't like smoke in their house, or people who made those pickle-faces whenever I lit up. If anything those things made me determined to do whatever I darned well pleased, just out of stubbornness.

    I quit for 1 reason: I decided I wanted to quit. It wasn't healthy & my small children deserved better. I was ready, completely of my own decision. I made the decision that as much as I enjoyed smoking, I was going to live my life without ever doing it again. I just quit, cold turkey, right then & there. That was before the days of e-cigarettes. It was tough, real tough, but the decision was made & that was that.

    Maybe instead of trying to convince him, you could try talking to him about it & ask him why he doesn't want to quit. Maybe, like I did, he really does enjoy smoking. Maybe he's in denial about what it's doing to him.
    But in the end, it has to be his decision. When it is & it's time, let him know you'll be supportive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss Scarlet View Post
    Many years ago, when I finally decided to quit smoking, I didn't do it because anyone pressured or hounded me to. It had nothing to do with non-smoking areas, or people who didn't like smoke in their house, or people who made those pickle-faces whenever I lit up. If anything those things made me determined to do whatever I darned well pleased, just out of stubbornness.

    I quit for 1 reason: I decided I wanted to quit. It wasn't healthy & my small children deserved better. I was ready, completely of my own decision. I made the decision that as much as I enjoyed smoking, I was going to live my life without ever doing it again. I just quit, cold turkey, right then & there. That was before the days of e-cigarettes. It was tough, real tough, but the decision was made & that was that.

    Maybe instead of trying to convince him, you could try talking to him about it & ask him why he doesn't want to quit. Maybe, like I did, he really does enjoy smoking. Maybe he's in denial about what it's doing to him.
    But in the end, it has to be his decision. When it is & it's time, let him know you'll be supportive.
    "people who made those pickle-faces whenever I lit up." that made me laugh out loud. I remember that well, and the people who waved their hands and arms around to dissipate smoke that was nowhere near them.
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    Hubby got out of the hospital on Monday and so far, (I think) he's doing good. I think he may have cheated a time or two, but I got him some nicotine patches and he is trying. That's all I can ask. I do admit to playing a little dirty though, because I've got our two granddaughters on my side and they are encouraging him to quit also. I know he will listen to them way more than me.

    I quit smoking 15 years ago and I still remember how hard it was. The problem is... when you stop smoking, no matter what "helps" you use, you STILL have to climb the mountain. And if you keep sneaking cigarettes, the mountain will never get smaller. It seems insurmountable at first, but it can be done. The first couple of weeks are horrible though and I think that you just have to convince yourself that you have to go through it to get to the other side. There is no other way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lil Bit View Post
    Hubby got out of the hospital on Monday and so far, (I think) he's doing good. I think he may have cheated a time or two, but I got him some nicotine patches and he is trying. That's all I can ask. I do admit to playing a little dirty though, because I've got our two granddaughters on my side and they are encouraging him to quit also. I know he will listen to them way more than me.

    I quit smoking 15 years ago and I still remember how hard it was. The problem is... when you stop smoking, no matter what "helps" you use, you STILL have to climb the mountain. And if you keep sneaking cigarettes, the mountain will never get smaller. It seems insurmountable at first, but it can be done. The first couple of weeks are horrible though and I think that you just have to convince yourself that you have to go through it to get to the other side. There is no other way.
    Have you talked to him about the electronic cigarettes? I know a number of people who have used them, starting with the medium or low nicotine & working their way down to the no nicotine. Then it's just a matter of habit & if they want to give that up.
    The better brands have way less of the chemicals so are much more healthy, even if he doesn't want to entirely quit. You have to do a little research to find these.
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    Re: Quitting Smoking

    Quote Originally Posted by Lil Bit View Post
    Hubby got out of the hospital on Monday and so far, (I think) he's doing good. I think he may have cheated a time or two, but I got him some nicotine patches and he is trying. That's all I can ask. I do admit to playing a little dirty though, because I've got our two granddaughters on my side and they are encouraging him to quit also. I know he will listen to them way more than me.

    I quit smoking 15 years ago and I still remember how hard it was. The problem is... when you stop smoking, no matter what "helps" you use, you STILL have to climb the mountain. And if you keep sneaking cigarettes, the mountain will never get smaller. It seems insurmountable at first, but it can be done. The first couple of weeks are horrible though and I think that you just have to convince yourself that you have to go through it to get to the other side. There is no other way.
    Continued good luck and best wishes to your husband and your family. It helps to have that loving support ... and to help him avoid the triggers ... but you are right about the rest.
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    Re: Quitting Smoking

    Just bumping for a couple of reasons .... it was 16 months for me yesterday... I also thought it would make an excellent resolution to quit in 2014 ... or continue to "stay quit ") !
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    Re: Quitting Smoking

    Very depressing the stuff that's coming out about e-cigs now---not just that many of them may have carcinogens...and other bad stuff as mentioned above (hopefully not all brands--too bad the articles are aways fuzzy on which kind were studied), but that they are becoming a gateway to smoking for teens. Too bad as they seemed to really help a lot of people here.
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