The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents - Page 549

SR5Rfan · 11-18-2008, 09:18 PM

I didn't have too much trouble with my son in his teen years, but I remember him at about age 8 telling me (on the first day of summer vacation, when we had to go to the cleaners - a 15 minute trip) that I had ruined his whole summer. He laughs about it now and says it's true because the whole summer is based on what happens the first day.

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Bunny555 · 11-19-2008, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by ClosetRTWatcher

My oldest is 15 so we are in the middle of teenagerdom also. My FAAAV part is how he always manages to blame ME for EVERYTHING.
The other day I called him upstairs because he hadn't completed his chores. I called him LOUDLY because he didn't respond the first time. When he came up we had this conversation:
HIM: I can't believe YOU ruined my Xbox 360 game. Now I HAVE to buy a new one!
ME: What?!?!? How on earth did I ruin your Xbox game?!?!?
HIM: You called me upstairs and it was balanced on this stand and when I ran up here the Xbox fell over and the game got scratched.

So it is MY fault because I had the gall to ask him to do a chore at a time when HE had his game console precariously balanced in his room....

He does this kind of stuff all the time. Fortunately when I point out the ridiculousness of his position he usually finds it pretty funny!

It's also your fault if he leaves the headset to the Xbox 360 laying on the floor of his room and you nearly kill yourself tripping over and stepping on it. My son has gone through 2 headsets because of this and yes, of course it is my fault.

canuckinchile · 11-19-2008, 08:28 AM

I have an almost 14 year old son. He's pretty good, but yeah, gotta love it when I talk to him when he is playing some game and apparently it's my fault if his character gets in trouble. Luckily, he too has a sense of humour about it all. He has really shot up over the last months and is almost 5 ft. 10 but only weighs about 125 pounds, so I am now officially the shortest as both my girls are close to 6 ft. Well, at least I'm taller than the dogs

Two teenagers down and one to go....give me strength.

Gutmutter · 11-19-2008, 09:04 AM

I'm driving 2 of my kids to the airport Sat. for their annual week-long thanksgiving visit to my mom (with cousins). My son in college called me last night after midnight to ask what time I'd be picking him up. I couldn't get back to sleep after I hung up and looked at the clock and called him back and read him the riot act. What was he thinking? He knows I get up at 4:30.

myrosiedog · 11-19-2008, 09:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ClosetRTWatcher

My oldest is 15 so we are in the middle of teenagerdom also. My FAAAV part is how he always manages to blame ME for EVERYTHING.
The other day I called him upstairs because he hadn't completed his chores. I called him LOUDLY because he didn't respond the first time. When he came up we had this conversation:
HIM: I can't believe YOU ruined my Xbox 360 game. Now I HAVE to buy a new one!
ME: What?!?!? How on earth did I ruin your Xbox game?!?!?
HIM: You called me upstairs and it was balanced on this stand and when I ran up here the Xbox fell over and the game got scratched.

So it is MY fault because I had the gall to ask him to do a chore at a time when HE had his game console precariously balanced in his room....

He does this kind of stuff all the time. Fortunately when I point out the ridiculousness of his position he usually finds it pretty funny!

Welcome to the time of your life where EVERYTHING is your fault and you also happen to be so stupid it's amazing you can get dressed each morning.
I am there now and have been for a while. I keep being told that in a few years, I will be amazed at much smarter I will get as my daughter gets older and how things will stop being my fault. Not sure if I can wait that long.

I ruined Christmas yesterday. Nevermind that we haven't even gotten through Thanksgiving yet, but I have ruined Christmas and it's no use to even put up the decorations and even pretend there is a holiday. Fine with me. Will be cheaper that way.

Imagine the gall of me saying that we really couldn't afford to buy a Christmas tree and all matching decorations for my daughter to have in her living room downstairs. (we have 2 trees and we have tons of decorations. I see no point why she has to have a full size tree with matching decorations in her part of the house when we can have the regular tree in the living room and she could have the 3 foot tree we also have if she so choses and any leftover decorations that don't go on the big tree)

Lil Bit · 11-19-2008, 10:01 AM

Hang in there all of you out there with teens. It really does get better. My kids are all grown now and it's amazing how often they call for advice about something. Considering how out of it, old fashioned and just plain stupid we were only a few years ago, it's really quite remarkable.

myrosiedog · 11-19-2008, 10:07 AM

It's so good to hear that someone made it out of the teen years with their brain intact. Thanks Lil Bit.

My child informed us last night that she hasn't had a good Christmas since she was 10. I wanted to slap the living daylights out of her. She NEVER used to be this greedy and ungrateful. She's had very nice holidays and she knows it. Thank goodness I scrapbook and could pull out the albums full of Christmas morning pictures to show the ingrate how good her Christmases have been.

I also want to tell her that the money we would spend on her this year is being donated to homeless kids who do NOT get anything for Christmas. She has no idea we're in a recession right now.
When does the entire world stop revolving around them? It's old and I'm mad and upset because she was NOT raised this way and she's never acted like this about money, gifts, Christmas, etc. before. I was so disgusted with her last night that I told her to get out of my sight I couldn't stand it another moment.

She did apologize this morning, but it was halfhearted.

ETA: and of course, I do feel like it's all my fault because I must have failed somewhere along the line to get such an ingrate who's behaving like a spoiled brat. I swear the pod people have taken my real daughter. This is not the child that we used to have.

Bunny555 · 11-19-2008, 10:36 AM

She said that be hurtful to you MRD. My kids know exactly which buttons to push to get a rise out of me, especially my daughter. My son, for the most part, will think before he speaks because he doesn't want to go there with me. My daughter goes right for the jugular with her words but I don't let her bait me. She hates getting the silent treatment from me and that's exactly what she gets.

Lil Bit · 11-19-2008, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by myrosiedog

It's so good to hear that someone made it out of the teen years with their brain intact. Thanks Lil Bit.

My child informed us last night that she hasn't had a good Christmas since she was 10. I wanted to slap the living daylights out of her. She NEVER used to be this greedy and ungrateful. She's had very nice holidays and she knows it. Thank goodness I scrapbook and could pull out the albums full of Christmas morning pictures to show the ingrate how good her Christmases have been.

I also want to tell her that the money we would spend on her this year is being donated to homeless kids who do NOT get anything for Christmas. She has no idea we're in a recession right now.
When does the entire world stop revolving around them? It's old and I'm mad and upset because she was NOT raised this way and she's never acted like this about money, gifts, Christmas, etc. before. I was so disgusted with her last night that I told her to get out of my sight I couldn't stand it another moment.

She did apologize this morning, but it was halfhearted.

ETA: and of course, I do feel like it's all my fault because I must have failed somewhere along the line to get such an ingrate who's behaving like a spoiled brat. I swear the pod people have taken my real daughter. This is not the child that we used to have.

Wow. Does your post ever take me back. I remember saying to a friend, "What happened? I used to like her.", about my daughter. DO NOT blame yourself for her behavior. Heck, I'm not even sure you can blame her. She's just going through that age and I guarantee that she will come through the other side perfectly fine.

One advantage we had with our daughter is that when she was 16 she had the opportunity to be involved in our towns Sister City program. It was with a city in Russia and she was able to participate in an exchange program over the summer. 5 kids from Russia came here and spent 3 weeks and then 5 of our kids went for another 3 weeks to Russia. She really got her eyes opened for her with that experience. I remember when she got back she said, "Mom, you don't realize the things we take for granted in this country. I'm not talking about big stuff either. I'm talking about hot water and toilet paper!" And just talking to the other kids and seeing how they live. The advantages that we have in this country. My daughter had a job, her own car, her own room, freedom. Things the Russian teens couldn't even imagine having. It really changed her outlook on life and I think it helped to make her the wonderful, tolerant, loving person that she is today.

Anyway, your daughter will come around. She's got a good mother, and don't you forget that! I'd like to tell you some magic words to help you get through to her, but I just don't know any. All I can say is that time usually handles this particular problem. You just have to hang in there and wait it out. Keep doing what you think is right, no matter how wrong she thinks you are. And come here to vent whenever you feel the need.

famita · 11-19-2008, 11:32 AM

Man oh man, did this ever bring back the memories! My boys were into nintendo and 360 and if I wanted them to set the table and they bombed out on the game it was my fault. I remember I used to tell them that if they didn't want to set the table, I didn't have to cook and they could fix themselves something else. That lasted about a day or two, but I held firm. I remember their faces so filled with hate and anger-I used to laugh. I told them I remembered when I was young and hated my mom and dad like they hated me...told them they'd get over it and would love me again one day. They did.

11-18-2008, 09:18 PM	#5481
SR5Rfan Little Thing Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: In the Inland Empire, CA Age: 51 Posts: 459	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents I didn't have too much trouble with my son in his teen years, but I remember him at about age 8 telling me (on the first day of summer vacation, when we had to go to the cleaners - a 15 minute trip) that I had ruined his whole summer. He laughs about it now and says it's true because the whole summer is based on what happens the first day. __________________ I never met a piece of chocolate I didn't like.

11-19-2008, 08:28 AM	#5483
canuckinchile Forum Assistant Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: back in "The Big Smoke" Posts: 4,504	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents I have an almost 14 year old son. He's pretty good, but yeah, gotta love it when I talk to him when he is playing some game and apparently it's my fault if his character gets in trouble. Luckily, he too has a sense of humour about it all. He has really shot up over the last months and is almost 5 ft. 10 but only weighs about 125 pounds, so I am now officially the shortest as both my girls are close to 6 ft. Well, at least I'm taller than the dogs Two teenagers down and one to go....give me strength.

11-19-2008, 09:04 AM	#5484
Gutmutter Blessed Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: In an attitude of gratitude Posts: 5,054	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents I'm driving 2 of my kids to the airport Sat. for their annual week-long thanksgiving visit to my mom (with cousins). My son in college called me last night after midnight to ask what time I'd be picking him up. I couldn't get back to sleep after I hung up and looked at the clock and called him back and read him the riot act. What was he thinking? He knows I get up at 4:30. __________________ Count your blessings!

11-19-2008, 10:01 AM	#5486
Lil Bit FORT Fogey Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Iowa Posts: 1,013	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents Hang in there all of you out there with teens. It really does get better. My kids are all grown now and it's amazing how often they call for advice about something. Considering how out of it, old fashioned and just plain stupid we were only a few years ago, it's really quite remarkable.

11-19-2008, 10:07 AM	#5487
myrosiedog FORT Fogey Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In National Championship Land! Florida Gators #1 Age: 46 Posts: 12,078 Blog Entries: 7	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents It's so good to hear that someone made it out of the teen years with their brain intact. Thanks Lil Bit. My child informed us last night that she hasn't had a good Christmas since she was 10. I wanted to slap the living daylights out of her. She NEVER used to be this greedy and ungrateful. She's had very nice holidays and she knows it. Thank goodness I scrapbook and could pull out the albums full of Christmas morning pictures to show the ingrate how good her Christmases have been. I also want to tell her that the money we would spend on her this year is being donated to homeless kids who do NOT get anything for Christmas. She has no idea we're in a recession right now. When does the entire world stop revolving around them? It's old and I'm mad and upset because she was NOT raised this way and she's never acted like this about money, gifts, Christmas, etc. before. I was so disgusted with her last night that I told her to get out of my sight I couldn't stand it another moment. She did apologize this morning, but it was halfhearted. ETA: and of course, I do feel like it's all my fault because I must have failed somewhere along the line to get such an ingrate who's behaving like a spoiled brat. I swear the pod people have taken my real daughter. This is not the child that we used to have. __________________ Emancipate yourself from mental slavery; none but ourselves can free our minds. - Bob Marley Que me amat, amet et canem meum (Who loves me will love my dog also)

11-19-2008, 10:36 AM	#5488
Bunny555 ♥ ♥ ♥ Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: ♥ ♥ ♥ Posts: 1,461	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents She said that be hurtful to you MRD. My kids know exactly which buttons to push to get a rise out of me, especially my daughter. My son, for the most part, will think before he speaks because he doesn't want to go there with me. My daughter goes right for the jugular with her words but I don't let her bait me. She hates getting the silent treatment from me and that's exactly what she gets. __________________ "It's time now to sing out,tho the story never ends, let's celebrate, remember a year in the life of friends. Remember the love!"

11-19-2008, 11:32 AM	#5490
famita FORT Fogey Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 2,527	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents Man oh man, did this ever bring back the memories! My boys were into nintendo and 360 and if I wanted them to set the table and they bombed out on the game it was my fault. I remember I used to tell them that if they didn't want to set the table, I didn't have to cook and they could fix themselves something else. That lasted about a day or two, but I held firm. I remember their faces so filled with hate and anger-I used to laugh. I told them I remembered when I was young and hated my mom and dad like they hated me...told them they'd get over it and would love me again one day. They did.