The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents

[gabriel]

Originally Posted by Gutmutter

One day next week I'll turn around and he won't be there and I'll forget all about him. No, I don't intend to stay in touch. I'm not in touch now. He has eluded any kind of familiarity with us.

That's life. You tried your best my dear lady and you know it. I wouldn't be too crazy about doing exhange thingee again if I were you.

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[Gutmutter]

Thanks gabriel. I did try - maybe not as hard as I could have, but he didn't make it easy. Water under the bridge at this point. I certainly won't have one next year (my daughter's senior year) and after that with just me at home I wouldn't want to risk it.

[Duxxy]

*arrrrrrg* I'm toilet training a 2 yr old girl right now and she is by far the most difficult I have ever encountered. I would have stopped and waited a bit to try again in a few weeks but the parents are insistant. I have helped toilet train almost 30 kiddos and this one has me pulling my hair out. Not to mention that if I say to mom that she's resistant and we should stop mom starts crying because she feels like a failure so I am torturing myself (and the KID) to keep mom from crying.

FYI it's much easier to train a 'dull' kid than it is a smart one. The smart ones that are resistant manage to figure out very early that they are in control of their bodies and if they aren't into it you are fighting an uphill battle and it's one that the kid always wins. Never force toilet training. Then again when the smart ones are ready you have them trained in record time. My record to date is a 2 1/2 yr old boy... 3 days, never another diaper or accident.

OK thanks, I needed to get that off my chest.

What brought this on at this hour?? well how about mom calling me! One parent or the other has called me everyday this week during supper to chat or ask questions about this toileting thing. My day starts at 7:30 and ends at 5:30. Calling at 6:15 is not fair!

[burntbrat]

Aww Duxxy, it's got to be tough when you're not the parent and they don't understand that their kiddo isn't ready. My daughter is intelligent (I hope, I think) she communicates much better than other kids her age and her memory is amazing. But she's the baby of the family and we're having an awful time potty-training her. It doesn't help that the daycare isn't consistent, but I think most of the blame goes to her. She's just so resistant to it. We've tried rewards, the three-day potty training thing, and nothing has got through to her yet. I've just got to keep plugging away at her pace, I guess. The three day thing was really funny. When she messed herself and had to clean herself up she was actually happy about getting to clean herself up. It was frustrating for me because the cleaning herself up part was supposed to be the punishment!

[dagwood]

It is hard, I have watched my sitter try to train kids when the parents aren't consistent. They should all be like my daughter. One day she decided she was done with diapers and that was it. I put her in pull-ups at night but there were no accidents.

[buglover]

My son did the same thing dag, he took his diaper off and never wanted to put it on again. He had 3 accidents at night and then he got the hang of it. I thought it was going to be so hard since my friends had children who had accidents all the time.

Now getting him to stop hitting was a challenge!!

[myrosiedog]

All of you that had kids that trained so easily, I just have one thing to say:

I HATE YOU!!!!!!!! ( just kidding.) Consider yourselves blessed though. We thought we were so lucky, our child just did everything early and so well. Slept through the night by 7 weeks, weaned herself at a year old, was just progressing brilliantly (and we, her parents, thought we had given birth to a TRUE genius. ) and then potty training. It was like hitting a brick wall at 100 mph! I didn't think she would EVER, EVER ,EVER train.

But we got through it and like I've heard a million times, no kid goes to the senior prom in diapers (but I did really think mine might be the first).

[buglover]

You are lucky she slept through the night. My son had colic for a year and believe me, I would have rather he had a terrible time potty training!!

[dagwood]

I guess I should sneak out of this thread. Mine slept through the night early, hardly cried or spit up and was in general an easy baby. I guess that means I am in for hell when she is a teenager.

[myrosiedog]

Originally Posted by dagwood

I guess I should sneak out of this thread. Mine slept through the night early, hardly cried or spit up and was in general an easy baby. I guess that means I am in for hell when she is a teenager.

Yes!
Mine's not a bad teenager, we certainly are lucky we aren't facing the problems that some parents face with teens, but man, it was SO very much easier when she was little. She was so well behaved back then. Now you'd think she was raised by wolves. I honestly don't know where all those manners went that I worked so hard to teach. I'm hoping that they reappear one day when the pod people bring her back along with her cheerful attitude.

We thought we were being such great parents to teach our child to be independent, to have her own opinions and speak her mind. Now that she is doing all that, we're sorry we taught her all that.

(seriously, we think it's great, but she's supposed to speak her mind and share her opinons to OTHERS, not US! I blame it all on her dad who taught her to question all authority. He's a repressed hippie, what can I say? )