The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents - Page 516

buglover · 03-21-2008, 07:32 PM

Why are kids so rude? I took my son for a hair cut and we did a compromise cut, not as short as I wanted, not as long as he wanted. We went to the grocery store and I made general chit-chat with him. He stared ahead like I wasn't even there and it isn't the first time. If I even try to talk to him without barking orders, he just acts like I'm not there. It's only when he wants something that he is nice to me and I really don't like that at all.

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DesertRose · 03-21-2008, 09:42 PM

He's not human right now, he's a teenager. You know how they say men are from Mars and women from Venus? I think teenagers are from a completely different galaxie.

I need some potty training advice: my son is 3 and has been potty trained for almost a year. However, he still wears a pull up at night and it's always full when he wakes up in the morning. The last few days, he's been complaining about his pull up, saying he wants to wear undies to bed. What should I do? I don't see how he can wake up in the middle of the night to pee, since he's a sound sleeper. And I don't really want to spend sleepless nights changing his sheets, since I have a 4 month old who needs feeding at night, still. But at this pace, I'm worried he'll be 6 and still wear pull ups to bed.

lildago · 03-21-2008, 10:10 PM

Does he drink a lot before bed? Maybe try not to let him have anything an hour or so before bed time. That usually works for mine.

buglover · 03-21-2008, 10:40 PM

God it's been so many years since potty training. I think my son had a few accidents. We put a plastic sheet under his regular sheet for a few months. After waking up soaking wet, he began to recognize the urge and said he was dreaming he was on the toilet and just went. After that, the would wake up as soon as he had a potty dream and go right away.

myrosiedog · 03-22-2008, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by buglover

Why are kids so rude? I took my son for a hair cut and we did a compromise cut, not as short as I wanted, not as long as he wanted. We went to the grocery store and I made general chit-chat with him. He stared ahead like I wasn't even there and it isn't the first time. If I even try to talk to him without barking orders, he just acts like I'm not there. It's only when he wants something that he is nice to me and I really don't like that at all.

I HATE that, but if I say anything, then we are in a full fledged war.

Desert Rose is right, teenagers are from WAY out in outer space. I told someone on Thur. that it's like the movie "Invasion of the Body Snatchers". About 13 years old, they are taken and replaced with the double that is hormonal, rude, excitable, full of drama, insensitive, selfish, etc.
But I do have it on good authority, that at about 20 or so, they start turning back into the loveable child we knew and loved. I don't know if I can make it 3 more years!

As for the potty training DR, I've heard suggestions that you set an alarm clock for the middle of the night to wake up your son and have him go to the bathroom and then back to bed.

famita · 03-22-2008, 10:16 AM

My son that had that problem stopped after I would wake him up in the middle of the night to go. He usually didn't even remember waking up. I also curtailed his drinking a few hours before bedtime.

gabriel · 03-22-2008, 11:05 AM

Curtailing his liquid intake might work. I think it did for me, and that was just last year

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But seriously, I was potty trained and was doing fine until I began going to school, then started bedwetting at about 7. Took a few years but it finally stopped, I don't recall if it was by curtailing liquids or if I just grew out of it.

myrosiedog · 03-22-2008, 11:52 AM

I had a problem with bedwetting for quite a few years, until I was almost 10. Turns out it was a physical problem that had to be corrected.
But the alarm clock thing has worked well for several people I know.

gabriel · 03-22-2008, 12:34 PM

As I get older I hear of more & more people who were bedwetters and it seems to be pretty common. So why was the stigma attached to it?

buglover · 03-22-2008, 03:36 PM

I think it was parents who were making it seem so wrong gabriel. I know when it happened to me a couple times at elementary school age I got a whoppin for wetting the bed. It's more acceptable now but I do know if it continues to happen as kids get older, there is usually a trauma going on or a physical issue that needs to be addressed.

03-21-2008, 07:32 PM	#5151
buglover Dreaming..... Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: CA Age: 35 Posts: 10,127 Blog Entries: 4	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents Why are kids so rude? I took my son for a hair cut and we did a compromise cut, not as short as I wanted, not as long as he wanted. We went to the grocery store and I made general chit-chat with him. He stared ahead like I wasn't even there and it isn't the first time. If I even try to talk to him without barking orders, he just acts like I'm not there. It's only when he wants something that he is nice to me and I really don't like that at all. __________________ Here's to a better year in 2009!

03-21-2008, 09:42 PM	#5152
DesertRose When coffee just won't do Join Date: May 2005 Location: Reno hell Posts: 3,358	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents He's not human right now, he's a teenager. You know how they say men are from Mars and women from Venus? I think teenagers are from a completely different galaxie. I need some potty training advice: my son is 3 and has been potty trained for almost a year. However, he still wears a pull up at night and it's always full when he wakes up in the morning. The last few days, he's been complaining about his pull up, saying he wants to wear undies to bed. What should I do? I don't see how he can wake up in the middle of the night to pee, since he's a sound sleeper. And I don't really want to spend sleepless nights changing his sheets, since I have a 4 month old who needs feeding at night, still. But at this pace, I'm worried he'll be 6 and still wear pull ups to bed.

03-21-2008, 10:10 PM	#5153
lildago Looking Ahead Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 9,716	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents Does he drink a lot before bed? Maybe try not to let him have anything an hour or so before bed time. That usually works for mine. __________________ These dreams are not of sand.

03-21-2008, 10:40 PM	#5154
buglover Dreaming..... Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: CA Age: 35 Posts: 10,127 Blog Entries: 4	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents God it's been so many years since potty training. I think my son had a few accidents. We put a plastic sheet under his regular sheet for a few months. After waking up soaking wet, he began to recognize the urge and said he was dreaming he was on the toilet and just went. After that, the would wake up as soon as he had a potty dream and go right away. __________________ Here's to a better year in 2009!

03-22-2008, 10:16 AM	#5156
famita FORT Fogey Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 2,528	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents My son that had that problem stopped after I would wake him up in the middle of the night to go. He usually didn't even remember waking up. I also curtailed his drinking a few hours before bedtime.

03-22-2008, 11:05 AM	#5157
gabriel Being a good fella Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: My dad shares my apt Age: 51 Posts: 7,124	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents Curtailing his liquid intake might work. I think it did for me, and that was just last year . But seriously, I was potty trained and was doing fine until I began going to school, then started bedwetting at about 7. Took a few years but it finally stopped, I don't recall if it was by curtailing liquids or if I just grew out of it.

03-22-2008, 11:52 AM	#5158
myrosiedog FORT Fogey Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In National Championship Land! Florida Gators #1 Age: 46 Posts: 12,078 Blog Entries: 7	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents I had a problem with bedwetting for quite a few years, until I was almost 10. Turns out it was a physical problem that had to be corrected. But the alarm clock thing has worked well for several people I know. __________________ Emancipate yourself from mental slavery; none but ourselves can free our minds. - Bob Marley Que me amat, amet et canem meum (Who loves me will love my dog also)

03-22-2008, 12:34 PM	#5159
gabriel Being a good fella Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: My dad shares my apt Age: 51 Posts: 7,124	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents As I get older I hear of more & more people who were bedwetters and it seems to be pretty common. So why was the stigma attached to it?

03-22-2008, 03:36 PM	#5160
buglover Dreaming..... Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: CA Age: 35 Posts: 10,127 Blog Entries: 4	Re: The Oasis - A spot for FORT parents I think it was parents who were making it seem so wrong gabriel. I know when it happened to me a couple times at elementary school age I got a whoppin for wetting the bed. It's more acceptable now but I do know if it continues to happen as kids get older, there is usually a trauma going on or a physical issue that needs to be addressed. __________________ Here's to a better year in 2009!