There's no defense, I know. I spoke to my daughter about her response. I tried to speak to my son, but he's having some issues right now and was trying to pack to go to this job stint for a week in Boston. I don't think I could get away with smacking him, much as I'd like to. He's 6'5". As for my mother I sent a snippy e-mail back and then panicked this morning and apologized. She's been very helpful to me along the way. It just caught me at a really bad time.