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    Well, I don't always work that fast. But I was just standing around and so...
    When you're ten years old and a car drives by and splashes a puddle of water all over you, it's hard to decide if you should go to school like that or try to go home and change and probably be late. So while he was trying to decide, I drove by and splashed him again. - Jack Handey

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    Wow, Paulie slipped in here and this thread grew by a page and a half while I was gone
    I see he's got a long line, I guess I'll just have to take a number for my massage.
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    Paulie, you are just too lucky that the kids are wanting to share a room. We are wondering how we could make the boys agree to sleep behind the same door, so we could have an actual office room with a lock in door...

    And, to all, this is a fun thread to read, sorry that my first entry was all fire and flames, I promise I don't have any other issues

    Well, or maybe I do, just a tiny little one... But I'll wait until someone else brings the current child care and educational system up. Not that I am hinting or anything

    Cosleeping. I actually liked the cosleeping, kids sleep the whole night through and because of that I got more sleep also. The only problem is the size of the bed, we only have a Queen now, and that barely holds two adults, then when you add two kids to that it gets kinda tight, especially because the kids never sleep straight (sometimes I have given up and ended up in the kids room). Our older one does not wander very often anymore, I think the changing point was when we got him this red "ferrari" bed. It is apparently a much more exciting place to be than our bed, and he only wanders now when he is having really bad nightmares. He still needs nightlight though, I hope he grows out of that too eventually (well, my mother never did ).
    ps. This is just my opinion in the matter.

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    Re: touching

    I'm not a touchy feeling person with people I don't know at all. So people are lucky not to pull back a stump when they start touching my child I remember well the total strangers that would reach out to pat my stomach when I was pregnant, as well. Very annoying.

    Also, how annoying is it when your child is pitching a fit in a public place and strangers try to console them? My daughter doesn't want to be spoken to by strangers when she's crying. It just makes it worse when someone she doesn't know gets up in her face and starts asking her what's wrong. My rule of thumb is if a toddler is crying and their parents can't calm them down, you'll not have any luck either so it's best to leave them be.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tirlittan
    It is apparently a much more exciting place to be than our bed
    Ah, if only he knew the real story, eh?

    And, Stargazer, that thing where strangers try to console my kids in public is a major pet peeve of mine, as well! Happened in Las Vegas just a few weeks ago. My youngest decided he just wanted to stand in the casino rather than rejoin his mom and sister after I took both boys on a bathroom excursion. He also fought me when I tried to pick him up to carry him. So I just held his hand and walked him firmly back in the direction of the rest of the family. He walked with me, but he was crying and wailing the whole time. As we passed some random couple, the woman starts asking him, "What's the matter? What's going on?" all in a goofy oochy-coochy-coo voice (which we don't use with our kids, BTW, in case that's not obvious). He stopped crying for a moment, just to try to figure out what the deal was with this wacko talking to him. She looked all accomplished and self-satisfied that she'd managed to shut him up where I had failed. But that lasted all of three seconds before he was off again. He didn't really settle until he saw Mom. I actually don't know what was bothering him, but once you've poked on a number of possibilities, you have to just move forward, even if they're still pitching a fit. That's our opinion, anyway. We don't want any of the kids to get the impression that they can use crying as a tool to get their way.

    Now you're all thinking I'm a really harsh dad. Sorry. I'll go back to giving massages. I think Stargazer's number is up, right?
    When you're ten years old and a car drives by and splashes a puddle of water all over you, it's hard to decide if you should go to school like that or try to go home and change and probably be late. So while he was trying to decide, I drove by and splashed him again. - Jack Handey

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paulie

    Now you're all thinking I'm a really harsh dad.
    Not at all. We don't talk 'babytalk' to our child either. Actually I think the only people that do are the ones that don't have kids. Oh, and my mother-in-law :rolleyes I also don't think that kids always have a reason for crying that we can understand. Sometimes they are just testing their boundaries and you have let the tantrum run its course. I'm pretty lucky, though, because my daughter has a very Zen personality. She's pretty laid back.
    Sorry. I'll go back to giving massages. I think Stargazer's number is up, right?
    Of course, I could just be agreeing with you until my massage is over
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    I loved co-sleeping. Hubby worked nights so it was just me and the wee one. When he moved to his big boy bed, it was harder on me than it was him.
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    I'm glad some of you enjoy(ed) co-sleeping. I don't mind sleeping with my daughter, she NEVER slept in her crib. I just hope that by the end of this year she will sleep in her own bed in the same room as her brother. My son sleeps in his crib though moves to the bed with my husband somewhere around midnight or 1 a.m. We are both too tired at that time to stay up and make them fall back asleep to put them back to bed so in order to get a good night's rest, they sleep with us. I just do want that to end eventually so that it's just my husband and I in bed!

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    I just wanted to thank all of you for the nice replies concerning my post. Thank you all also for giving me a trip down memory lane. Just remember there is light at the end of the tunnel.

    Paulie---I think it just awesome that you came in this thread and posted and offered your thoughts as well. To me, that speaks volumes of the kind of dad you are and I just think it's great and I for one would love to read your take on parenthood.

    Yes all of you, my son did start sleeping through the night at 2 weeks. We had gone to the cottage and I woke up to find the sun streaming through the window and just panicked and flew over by him and he was sound asleep. Except for a few night of illness since then, my son has always been an serious sleeper.

    As for sleeping with mom and dad, I just want to offer this information which obviously can be taken however you want to. Back when I had to make those decisions, I based them on these things. 1) a crying, scared child means a tired parent. I had to work in the morning and felt that limited my choices. Every parent worries that it's going to turn into some nightmarish habit on the child's behalf and what will the neighbors say but you have to do what works for you. Use common sense when making your decision but deep down know that it is YOUR decision and nobody but nobody should tell you how to raise your kids. Make choices for yourself and your situation.

    Second of all, knowing you don't intend for it to be permanent means finding the reason for why they come in bed at night and trying to find ways to fix that. If your child is sick and will sleep with you, what does it hurt? If they're scared, I don't know but I always thought having a terrified child in the next room just so you could prove your point was ridiculous. Just knowing it will end at some time and doing things to work towards that are all you need to do instead of beating yourselves up over it now.

    Hope that helps alittle.
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