The problem for me as a professional in a very small community is I have to dance around these boundary issues and such which makes dating in day to day life extremely difficult even in person as everyone is related to someone else. It becomes as big if not a bigger issue online. So for me to keep some degree of anonymity is more important to me than finding someone who is going to judge me based solely on my looks.
I really do try to keep an open mind but seriously .....I just got matched with a guy who spelled the word "the" wrong in his profile. I'm not kidding. Not a typo. Again and again (like 10 times minimum) "th" instead of t-h-e. Holy crap.
I stopped using the online sites when I found a client, and also my MARRIED W/4 KIDS brother (he claimed he was single w/no kids) in the profiles in my area. Don't want my personal & professional lives to overlap. Definitely don't want to deal with liars.
I do know three friends who've found their spouses online. Two marriages are working really well, and the third is divorced. The third hubby lied about everything, and then once they were married immediatley started trolling the sites for more women!
Online dating used to be rather innocent, but now it seems to be just a big game.
Yeah I really don't know if I want to try it anymore. Confidence in any success is incredibly low. From what I notice a lot of website communities are nothing but a popularity contest. People everyone knows are well liked and "noobs" who just recently joined and haven't even had the chance to talk to anybody yet get shunned. Why do I even bother?
No profile picture sometimes or often means "married" person trying to fool around.
If you do not have a picture, you might not get responses because people think you are a married person. And if you do put your picture you will get responses from the universe which includes freaks and such.
Even the most innocent looking of men can be online Romeos looking to boost their self esteem through sex......and not notify who ever.
Be kind to yourself and do not get physically involved if you use the site. I think I would put a statement in there somewhere that you believe it takes months to get to know someone and that a platonic relationship will help both of you.
Good luck! I know there are plenty of funny, interesting people, in here. Be good to yourself.
Open mindedness is better saved for other things.