I certainly enjoy not having children. I am thankful that today more people are not so judgmental about it anymore. More and more people are saying, “Good Choice”. Perhaps 9-11 made people more aware that the world is not a safe place to raise children. Or maybe the issue of outsourcing has made people realize that they may not be able to afford children in the future.
I will be moving, from Phoenix in a few years, to a new town. Here, most everyone is Catholic. Not having children, to a Catholic, is certainly taboo. After I move, maybe I will like in an even more open minded community. Or maybe not.
I will be seeking a job in another city. I have been working my current job for over 10 years. No doubt interviewing has changed in all that time. Back then, often interviews digressed, for 10 min, or so. During the digression, casual conversation takes over. Often I was asked if I had children, or what I do in my spare time. If this sort of thing is still practiced, what should I do? I think I have a few options;
1. Say, we can’t have children.
2. Tell them I have grown children (lie)
3. Something else?
The last thing I want to do is tell them that I chose not to have children. In light of that I think choice #1 is best. This will invoke sympathy. In such a competitive world, I can’t afford to pass up anything that can be deemed an advantage.
…Another point – Funny
I was getting my taxes done. The accountant asked about various things such as dependants, and donations to a church, etc. I said I had made donations, but have no receipt. Anyway, he asked if we planned on seeing a doctor about fertility, as he mentioned that that is deductible. I told him that we chose not to have children. He asked if my church had a problem with it. I told him, no Buddhist, don’t care if you don’t have children. He asked if I had taken some kind OATH (tax deductible??). I told him no, I am not a monk.
I think he assumed we practiced celibacy. Hahahahaha
If you have had funny experiences with telling people you don’t want children, please post them. I am curious.