here's my problem... (this is long... get your coffee and get comfortable. )
i work in a suite with 6 other people. the lawyer i work for and i just rent out space in the suite and have been here for a little over a year, but don't really have much to do with the other people. our work is completely separate. there are 4 real estate brokers and their secretary/receptionist, charlotte, my boss and me.
charlotte is usually a really chatty woman. i mean, seriously... you can't ask her what's up in passing without her having to stop you for a 15 minute conversation. she's in her early 60s and is really kinda quirky, but she's always been fine (although a bit annoying) in the past. then suddenly, one day about 3 weeks ago, she was just mad. i mean, really pissed of. and makes no efforts to be even moderately cordial. it was odd... but i chalked it up to moodiness and let it go.
well, this has just gotten progressively worse. i mean, to the point where she will go to office supply (part of her job) without asking if we need anything (also part of her job). so our supplies are running out, and i'm too nervous to ask her to get us stuff... and i went into the fax room 2 days ago to pick up a fax that i knew was there for me. she had it in her hand, turned to leave and i said, "charlotte, i believe that fax is for me," and she THREW it on the counter and left. wtf?!! she's like a ticking time bomb!
so i talk to my boss about it for the nth time b/c i'm the one that it seems most directed at. and he talks to one of the brokers, and we're all stumped. my boss goes out later and says, "charlotte, why are you so angry? are you ok?" she says, "i'm not angry." really curtly. won't even look at him. "he said, "you seem angry. is something wrong?" she replies, "nothing's wrong. nobody cares about me. doesn't matter."
this morning when i get in, my boss says, "i know why she's mad. we forgot her birthday."
it was october 10th. but here's the bitch of it... she doesn't work with us. we are completely separate of her. we just rent space, though admittedly, we are always friendly to her - and b/c she has a jerkoff of a boss, MY boss will bring her a candy box on valentine's as he does for me, a little gift for xmas as he does for me, and will invite her to come along on MY birthday and assistant's day lunches THOUGH SHE DOESN'T WORK WITH US!!! and he does all of this b/c we know that her boss won't.
and why was she NOT mad for the week after her birthday? why was there a one week grace period before she got so pissed off?
so, now her birthday has passed completely unacknowledged and she is laughing and talking to ALL of the other brokers in the office as WELL as her ass of a boss who she HATES, but will barely speak to loren and will not even be cordial to me! and EVERYONE else in the office ALSO forgot her birthday!!!! not just me!
sooooooooo - i do feel bad that i forgot. i do. i mean, i would have gotten her a card and a little something from my boss and i to just acknowledge it had i known. she told loren (my boss) that she dropped PLENTY of hints - though he and i don't remember even one.
he said, "i told her i'm sorry." but she blew him off.
do i apologize? do i get her a belated birthday card and a cupcake or something? or do i just letter her simmer down as she is CLEARLY not mentally stable?!
what would you do?