ok, i wrote the card. i said, "charlotte, loren told me yesterday that we had forgotten your birthday and that maybe this is why you have been so upset with me recently. i wanted to tell you that i didn't intentionally ignore your special day and i'm sorry if i hurt your feelings. if it was not just missing your birthday that has made you so upset, please feel free to tell me so that i can try to rectify the situation. life is too short to let things that can be fixed stay broken. anyway, i hope you had a special birthday."
ugh. now, do i hand it to her or shove it up her ass?