I need advice. My boyfriend and I are going through a tough time with my parents right now. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years now and things have escalated to marriage talk. We aren’t officially engaged because we both agree that we shouldn’t take to the formal engagement process until he’s met my parents. I have met his--- some of you already know how I currently feel about his mom (but that’s a different storyline in “my so-called life”).
The kicker: I’ve been afraid to mention him as more than just a guy that I date to my parents because he’s a bit older--- okay A LOT older…. alright almost twice my age… alright the same age as my parents! I’ve decided that if I want this thing to go to the next level, I really just need to bite the bullet. I told my mother that this “thing” has turned serious and they should meet him, and now my parents and I aren’t on speaking terms.
What kills me is that I am very close to my family--- and not just my immediate family, but cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. I think that they are more appalled with my decision to date and fall in love with this man because that means that I have to bring around family functions and what not. And he’s no deadbeat either. My bf has a PH.D and is the most brilliant person I’ve ever met. He’s also the most honest, caring, most considerate and understanding man I’ve ever dated.
How am I suppose to go through with this without alienating my family???
I really appreciate your suggestions! Thanks, Guys!!