Rebel against "engagement rings". - Page 5

Tirlittan · 08-14-2003, 01:52 PM

AmandaG, you could always get a (mostly Australian, if I remember right) colored diamond, no blood money from Africa there

I do not like white clear diamonds, but I think the yellow ones are quite beautiful. There are also some that are pink.

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Feifer · 08-14-2003, 01:52 PM

Amanda, My engagement ring is second hand. We bought it from the twin sister of a nurse I used to work with. It had all the right papers and we had it checked out by a jeweler and all. We got it for about $3,000 less than was originally paid for it. I like my ring, but honestly could have lived without it. I would have been happy with just the gold band. My hubby wanted me to have a nice sparkly. The wedding bands were a gift from my inlaws. It is tradition in the Hipsanic culture for everyone in the family to participate in the wedding. Since Mr Feifer did not know that, my mom and I planned the entire wedding, there was nothing for his folks to do. They surprised us with matching bands about a month before the wedding. It meant so much to me that they did that. I will always cherish those rings.

So, second hand engagement ring and bands form his folks make a pretty good set.

mrdobolina · 08-14-2003, 01:53 PM

Feifer--That is a great story! So sweet!

mrdobolina · 08-14-2003, 02:00 PM

There is some good news about diamonds from "conflict countries". 1st of all, you CAN do the research and usually make sure there is no blood on your diamonds....it does take some extra work, but come on guys...its worth it for your sweetie right? I know people who have found antique diamond rings that have the proper papers to ensure where they came from. 2ndly, they now have "dna fingerprint" tests that they can perform on diamonds and say exactly where they came from. It seems that each diamond mine has its own unique "fingerprint" due to variances in the carbon the diamonds are formed from, etc. 3rdly, I dont know how long it will be, but Canada is rife with mineable diamonds. I saw a special on 20/20 about people who have found areas in Northern Canada that are rich in diamond deposits....I dont think there is much conflict in Canada--other than the price of da BEERS.

Miss Filangi · 08-14-2003, 02:15 PM

Dobolina

Feif - that really is such a sweet story.

I have tiny fingers, so big rings have never ever looked right or felt comfortable on me. Early on, I got used to small, simple rings... usually that can be found in the children's accessories section.

**hepcat** · 08-14-2003, 03:24 PM

Amanda - I suggest you listen to that voice that wants the diamond or you might be kicking yourself later. Some people have had some good suggestions how to make it a little more PC. I held out for my tanzanite and I loooove my ring. It's a big rock - way bigger than we could have afforded if it were a diamond. I love how heavy it feels. I only wear it when we go out, not everyday, and it makes my hubby proud to see it. We call it "our" ring instead of my ring.

We were unromantic about it too because we both recognize that my hubby has no fashion sense of any kind. When I met him he would wear mis-matched shoes - I kid you not. We picked the ring but I needed it sized, so when it was ready he delivered it with 2 dozen roses in person to my work as a surprise. That was plenty moment enough for me!

firegirl · 08-14-2003, 04:30 PM

I don't know if feeling "cheated" is the right word,, but hmmm ok how about this scenario, you go ut to your garage and shiny new ________ insert dream car in here, I will use Porsche is sitting there. When you start it up however you are informed it has a yugo engine under the hood. So, how do you feel? Or change it up, you go out to the garage and there sits a Ford Escort, with a ferrari engine under the hood.

Again, I like the whole package. But, then again I am a wedding planner by profession. So, while simple ( not plain) is a great idea to me. I think a big diamond set in a simple platinum band is always so elegant. Diamond stud earrings and your done!

Miss Filangi · 08-14-2003, 04:35 PM

I like the car analogy FG.

There are many kinds of women who love big, expensive diamonds... women who like them because it's their preference and just what they 'like'... and women who demand those things because they like the status or attention it gives them.

Women that fall into that second category are fortunately, fairly few and far between.

**hepcat** · 08-14-2003, 05:51 PM

Not to mention there will always be some snob who judges your fiance's sincerity, wealth, etc. by the size of the ring he gets you. That's the ugly side of it...hopefully they are also few and far between.

aliasmq · 08-15-2003, 11:40 AM

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08-14-2003, 01:52 PM	#42
Feifer Home Sweet Home! Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Dallas Age: 38 Posts: 4,532	Amanda, My engagement ring is second hand. We bought it from the twin sister of a nurse I used to work with. It had all the right papers and we had it checked out by a jeweler and all. We got it for about $3,000 less than was originally paid for it. I like my ring, but honestly could have lived without it. I would have been happy with just the gold band. My hubby wanted me to have a nice sparkly. The wedding bands were a gift from my inlaws. It is tradition in the Hipsanic culture for everyone in the family to participate in the wedding. Since Mr Feifer did not know that, my mom and I planned the entire wedding, there was nothing for his folks to do. They surprised us with matching bands about a month before the wedding. It meant so much to me that they did that. I will always cherish those rings. So, second hand engagement ring and bands form his folks make a pretty good set. __________________ It occurred to me that no matter how bleak things might seem at times, at least I have a head. ----Stargazer

08-14-2003, 01:53 PM	#43
mrdobolina Can They Do It?? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: The Miami of Canada Age: 36 Posts: 3,254	Feifer--That is a great story! So sweet! __________________ "You don't own a TV?!? What's all your furniture pointed at?" Joey Tribianni It's not who you are underneath, but what you do that defines you.

08-14-2003, 02:00 PM	#44
mrdobolina Can They Do It?? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: The Miami of Canada Age: 36 Posts: 3,254	There is some good news about diamonds from "conflict countries". 1st of all, you CAN do the research and usually make sure there is no blood on your diamonds....it does take some extra work, but come on guys...its worth it for your sweetie right? I know people who have found antique diamond rings that have the proper papers to ensure where they came from. 2ndly, they now have "dna fingerprint" tests that they can perform on diamonds and say exactly where they came from. It seems that each diamond mine has its own unique "fingerprint" due to variances in the carbon the diamonds are formed from, etc. 3rdly, I dont know how long it will be, but Canada is rife with mineable diamonds. I saw a special on 20/20 about people who have found areas in Northern Canada that are rich in diamond deposits....I dont think there is much conflict in Canada--other than the price of da BEERS. __________________ "You don't own a TV?!? What's all your furniture pointed at?" Joey Tribianni It's not who you are underneath, but what you do that defines you.

08-14-2003, 01:52 PM	#41
Tirlittan Under Investigation Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 2,084	AmandaG, you could always get a (mostly Australian, if I remember right) colored diamond, no blood money from Africa there I do not like white clear diamonds, but I think the yellow ones are quite beautiful. There are also some that are pink.

08-14-2003, 02:15 PM	#45
Miss Filangi Evil Slash Crazy Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Looking for a place to happen Age: 35 Posts: 11,376	Dobolina Feif - that really is such a sweet story. I have tiny fingers, so big rings have never ever looked right or felt comfortable on me. Early on, I got used to small, simple rings... usually that can be found in the children's accessories section.

08-14-2003, 03:24 PM	#46
hepcat chillax Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: not sleeping Posts: 25,004 Blog Entries: 3	Amanda - I suggest you listen to that voice that wants the diamond or you might be kicking yourself later. Some people have had some good suggestions how to make it a little more PC. I held out for my tanzanite and I loooove my ring. It's a big rock - way bigger than we could have afforded if it were a diamond. I love how heavy it feels. I only wear it when we go out, not everyday, and it makes my hubby proud to see it. We call it "our" ring instead of my ring. We were unromantic about it too because we both recognize that my hubby has no fashion sense of any kind. When I met him he would wear mis-matched shoes - I kid you not. We picked the ring but I needed it sized, so when it was ready he delivered it with 2 dozen roses in person to my work as a surprise. That was plenty moment enough for me!

08-14-2003, 04:30 PM	#47
firegirl FORT Fogey Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Waiting to watch the red carpet Age: 42 Posts: 3,007	I don't know if feeling "cheated" is the right word,, but hmmm ok how about this scenario, you go ut to your garage and shiny new ________ insert dream car in here, I will use Porsche is sitting there. When you start it up however you are informed it has a yugo engine under the hood. So, how do you feel? Or change it up, you go out to the garage and there sits a Ford Escort, with a ferrari engine under the hood. Again, I like the whole package. But, then again I am a wedding planner by profession. So, while simple ( not plain) is a great idea to me. I think a big diamond set in a simple platinum band is always so elegant. Diamond stud earrings and your done!

08-14-2003, 04:35 PM	#48
Miss Filangi Evil Slash Crazy Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: Looking for a place to happen Age: 35 Posts: 11,376	I like the car analogy FG. There are many kinds of women who love big, expensive diamonds... women who like them because it's their preference and just what they 'like'... and women who demand those things because they like the status or attention it gives them. Women that fall into that second category are fortunately, fairly few and far between.

08-14-2003, 05:51 PM	#49
hepcat chillax Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: not sleeping Posts: 25,004 Blog Entries: 3	Not to mention there will always be some snob who judges your fiance's sincerity, wealth, etc. by the size of the ring he gets you. That's the ugly side of it...hopefully they are also few and far between.

08-15-2003, 11:40 AM	#50
aliasmq CITY OF CHAMPS! Join Date: May 2003 Location: adidas Originals-Harvard Age: 39 Posts: 809	Snow Flake , I just fall in love with your avs all the time!