I'm going to take a stab at this one, but a) I don't purport to have any real special knowledge of human dynamics and b) I hate the answer I'm about to give, so I hope some of you will show me why it isn't true.Originally Posted by aliasmq
I think the scope of this question can be expanded some, into "why are a lot of women generally mean to other women?" This isn't a blanket statement, and it may be the exception rather than the rule. However, it's a pretty prevalent phenomenon, unfortunately. I know a lot of women (mostly younger, but some 30+ year olds as well) who will say without apology that "I don't like women." I tend not to trust these women, but that's just me. Whenever I've tried to discuss it with them, the main answer I usually get is "women are bitches". Well, okay. When pushed to elaborate, I usually hear stories of how some girl they were friends with stole their boyfriend or wronged them in some way. What they usually fail to realize is that, in the case of boyfriend-stealing, a man was also involved, yet they haven't sworn off the entire male gender as a result of some isolated act.
I think that at the core of the issue is insecurity. How many times have you heard women belittle some stranger for being attractive? Think about it. Some gorgeous woman walks by, and a lot of chicks will immediately find *something* about her to insult. "I'm glad *I* don't have to dress like a slut to get attention." "Nice roots, honey. You might want to make an appointment for another dye job." "Those CAN'T be real." And so on. Hell, I did this very thing not 15 minutes ago in the Big Brother forum. I'm not immune. The thing is that a lot of women view other women as competition. Even if they aren't doing it on a conscious level, it's often there. We're confronted day after day after day with these impossible standards of looks and wealth and personality (How much money do magazines like Cosmo and the like pull in a year?), and let's face it - not many of us can be those people we see on t.v. or in magazines. We're bombarded by imagery - both subtle and overt - and the whole time we're striving to be something we're not, it's chipping away at our self-esteem. I'm NEVER going to be a size 2 with a 6 figure income and a penchant for skydiving, but I keep being told that I ought to be. So we see other chicks who maybe look like they have it together more than we do, and there's jealousy involved. To get back to the original question, if a woman is in a position of power over someone for whom she has some envy, it might manifest itself in her being, well, not a great boss.
All that being said, however, I've had female bosses who were wonderful. I've had female bosses that sucked. Same with males. I honestly don't believe that the situation that I laid out above is necessarily true of the majority of women, but I think it's a large enough minority that there's no denying the truth to at least part of it.
Then again, I really hope I'm wrong.