I know what you mean. Any time a member of my family is inapproriate racial or homophobic remark I call them on it. That goes for other topics too.Originally posted by Zhora
I hate it when I'm having a nice conversation with a relative that's older than dirt and they casually throw in some racist, homophobic, or chauvinistic comment. There’s really no point in correcting them 10 seconds before they kick the bucket, so I have to bite my tongue REALLY HARD. If they do it again in the same conversation, I leave the room.
A few years ago my family was out to dinner for my birthday and my dad felt the urge to repeat a joke that he had heard that day. My dad is known for his jokes and usually they are funny, but sometimes they are a little off color. This particular on was not funny at all. It was a pedophile joke. After he finished with the joke and got a pity chuckle from my brother, I said,"Dad, I do not think that anything about an adult taking advantage of a child is funny in the least and if you are finished being vulgar, maybe we can all enjoy our meal". He appologized and has not told me a racey joke since. Not speaking up about subjects like these leads people to become comfortable with them and misleads them to believe that they are OK. That is my take on it.(Feifer steps down from the soapbox)