I don't see how touching and painful to watch has to be mutually exclusive. It doesn't. I stand by my feelings. I watch the show for fun. If I wanted to watch someone very apparently struggling with a terminal illness (which I don't as I've had enough of that experience personally), I can find a Lifetime movie to watch. No I am not portraying her as a woman who went on the show just to draw attention to herself. Certainly it was part of the reason, just like it is for all of the contestants that come on this show. I also have never once said she is more special/stronger/courageous etc than anyone else. That's pretty much exactly my point... she's not. She is going through something that millions of people face on a daily basis. She is however, getting that label by being on this show.
What I have said is that I don't like to watch someone suffer, which she was clearly doing during her rehearsals. Sure it's touching that she felt the need to prove herself I guess. But to me, and to others as well, it was painful to watch her struggle. I am not sure why there is such a conflict with that. That means I was sympathetic to her struggle, regardless of whether I wanted to have to be privy to it or not.
Touching? Sure. Painful to watch? For me, yes, absolutely.
All I have done is express how I felt watching Valerie struggle - it's really not anyone's position to try to tell me how I should feel. My mind certainly won't change lol. I say, stick a fork in this topic - its done.